Why "Whatever You Want" Keeps You Single

She says the movie looks dumb; you suddenly agree. She tests you with a little attitude; you apologize for nothing.

You think you're being easy to get along with. She reads something else entirely: a man with no edges. Nothing to hold on to. No friction, no tension, no reason to wonder what he really thinks.

The "22 Rules" taught me to push back — playfully, calmly, without needing her approval. Strange things happened after that.

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How to pick up a professional dancer with a sense of entitlement?

Firefly

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I am a member of a traveller's organisation that provides visitors to Australia with short-term accomodation in host's houses, as well as shows them around the city.

I got contacted by a professional dancer from New York coming out here for six months as part of a job. She asked if she could have free accomodation with me for the whole six months(!) in exchange for some light housework. This seems like quite the outrageous request, as the normal period of stay is for a few days. I was going to ignore her request until I looked her up on-line and discovered she was a 9.5!

So my question is how do I turn this request to my advantage? So far, I have sent her this e-mail:

"Hi there ****,

I may be able to help out. I have a place near the city where you would have your own room and kitchen ... However, I prefer to meet anyone I am hosting for that long before offering the room ... I have already had a few visitors arriving in Feburary write to me as well ... If you are interested, contact me when you arrive and I will be happy to meet up to see if you are the sort of person I would be happy to have stay for a few months ... I would be happy to host you if things work out after we meet."

Basically, I am sure that she has lots of AFC's kissing her ass, begging to have her stay with her so I figured that I should make her feel that she has to work to earn the right to stay with me. She has already responded, saying that she wants to keep in touch with me AND meet me once she arrives, despite the fact that she probably has a ton of guys already offering her a place. So how do I take it from here?
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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slaog

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If she has a sense of entitlement then it's better you avoid her. She might actually be good around the house and give 100% but I bet she isn't.


I wouldn't agree to it though. You seem to want something off her and she wants something off you but if you give her the place to stay in then don't expect her to give you anything in return.


At least you done well so far by not saying yes straight away. That would have been crazy.


The way to find out what she's really like is to question her about herself.
 

Firefly

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slaog said:
If she has a sense of entitlement then it's better you avoid her. She might actually be good around the house and give 100% but I bet she isn't.

I wouldn't agree to it though. You seem to want something off her and she wants something off you but if you give her the place to stay in then don't expect her to give you anything in return.

At least you done well so far by not saying yes straight away. That would have been crazy.

The way to find out what she's really like is to question her about herself.
Thanks for the good advice!

However, who said anything about letting her move in? She is going to have to do a LOT before I would even consider the idea because she sounds like a spoiled primadonna, albeit a really hot one.

However, I do have her in a position where she wants something from me, and I am presumably one of the few guys who have said no to her. My post was more me trying to work out how I can work this in my favour with regards to getting her into bed.
 

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"light housework" is code. It means she'll polish your c0ck not the coffee table.
 

Firefly

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theunflushables said:
"light housework" is code. It means she'll polish your c0ck not the coffee table.
I wish! Nah, she mentioned "folding clothes" and "helping out with cleaning" so I am guessing she is not offering sex, at least not yet ... :)
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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1. Is it customary to sell your balls for a number such as 9.5??

2. When you take off the make up she wont be so hot.

3. You are aware that she is a prostitute oh you guys don't have laws for that down there as I recall. So is it ok if she turns some tricks in that home?

4. Also she must be a loser at what she is doing if she is trying to get free rent. Any fool can have a website these days.

5. Also I guess this would make you trick-firefly instead of firefly.
 

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Firefly said:
I wish! Nah, she mentioned "folding clothes" and "helping out with cleaning" so I am guessing she is not offering sex, at least not yet ... :)
See, exactly. Folding the clothes you are taking off and cleaning your balls with her tongue. I can find double entendres in anything. :up:
 

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Firefly said:
IThis seems like quite the outrageous request, as the normal period of stay is for a few days. I was going to ignore her request until I looked her up on-line and discovered she was a 9.5!
So, you were going to ignore her, but then based purely on LOOKS alone that was enough to sway your decision:down: ? If this chick was butt ugly would you bend the rules for her?

"I would be happy to host you if things work out after we meet."

OMG, prostitution:cuss:
 

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theunflushables said:
See, exactly. Folding the clothes you are taking off and cleaning your balls with her tongue. I can find double entendres in anything. :up:
Nah, I think you are reading way too much into it. She also offered to "pleasure me for hours with her tounge" and "introduce me to her sweet canal of love". I am not sure what these phrases mean, but I think they may be euphemisms for cleaning ... :)
 

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Dust 2 Dust said:
So, you were going to ignore her, but then based purely on LOOKS alone that was enough to sway your decision:down: ? If this chick was butt ugly would you bend the rules for her?
Bend what rules? As I stated before, I may be using her attempt to scam free accomodation to meet her, but I have no intention of letting her stay.

Dust 2 Dust said:
"I would be happy to host you if things work out after we meet."

OMG, prostitution:cuss:
No, just setting down conditions to make her feel that she is the one who needs to impress me.

I don't think my fellow DJ's are understanding the help I am asking for in this post. I have a girl here who is really hot, but also has an inflated sense of entitlement. I am in a position where she really wants something from me, and so far I have not rolled over and given it to her like an AFC, but have set it up so that she feels she needs to win approval from me in order to get what she wants. My questions is how do I use this set of circumstances, and how should I proceed from now on, in order to get her into bed?
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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As a dancer who occasionally hosts other dancers from interstate or overseas, I recommend that you shouldn't overlook the possibility that this one could be your entry ticket into the world of professional dancers, where you'll find many women just as hot as she is.

I'd meet up with her, offer her a month to see how you two get along, and take it from there.
 

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Firefly said:
Nah, I think you are reading way too much into it. She also offered to "pleasure me for hours with her tounge" and "introduce me to her sweet canal of love". I am not sure what these phrases mean, but I think they may be euphemisms for cleaning ... :)
Yeah, that mean she is going to dust the mantle and vacuum the floor.
 
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