Hey guys, I'm interested in this girl I see often for a few minutes. She's always with her friends but I need to get her number tomorrow for it is my last chance because it is the last day before summer break. I don't want to wait for a month or two.. I'm most likely not even gonna see her because this will be my last year at this place. Any way I can man the hell up and just do the damn deed? The day before I feel like "tomorrow I'm gonna do it!", and then when tomorrow's dawn breaks into my room, I can feel the anxiety kick in and end up not approaching her and going home with a lot of self hate and regrets. Can you guys please help me? I hate this.
"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
How to overcome AA?
- Thread starter Wolfbones
- Start date
"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
The thing is the answer is the thing you need to do to get over it. You can only get over it by doing it. That's the only way your body and brain will be able to reprocess the information as you learn that the alpha male will not come over and clobber you, or that she will not shriek rape or laugh in your face.
This is the only real way men and women usually interact, the man must make the moves. Knowing this helps because then you understand women actually want men to come up to them and talk to them. So many times i've gone up to girls and in my mind I think shes gonna blow me out, and in the end I find out she is incredibly receptive and has wished a guy would come up and talk to her.
You will be rejected, especially when your super nervous/inexperienced but it gets better. Trust me.
This is the only real way men and women usually interact, the man must make the moves. Knowing this helps because then you understand women actually want men to come up to them and talk to them. So many times i've gone up to girls and in my mind I think shes gonna blow me out, and in the end I find out she is incredibly receptive and has wished a guy would come up and talk to her.
You will be rejected, especially when your super nervous/inexperienced but it gets better. Trust me.
Small talk wherever you go. If you get into the habit of talking to people situations like that will seem less and less stressful. Practice in the mirror everyday if you have to. To make this more blunt...stop acting like a goddamn pvssy and ask her out already!
@Kbomb:
I don't believe in the alpha/beta hierarchy but whatever, you're right. Anyway, I'm not afraid of rejection, but merely of talking to her and her friends though I have never approached any of them before. And I see them on a daily basis, so they already have judged me in their heads. Tomorrow will be my last shot. Thanks for the reply man, it makes sense a lot! Mind you, I'm 18 and she is probably too, maybe 17.
@JoeMarron:
I am indeed acting like a goddamn pvssy, I have told so myself a dozen of times, but that doesn't really seem to help. I would ask her out immediately if I had the standard "pretty boy" looks, which I unfortunately lack, which means I have to take it slower than the average guy. (Yes, my looks are that bad.)
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I will update this tomorrow. Most likely it will be a regretful post on how I hate myself and should've just approached her and stop giving a damn.
I don't believe in the alpha/beta hierarchy but whatever, you're right. Anyway, I'm not afraid of rejection, but merely of talking to her and her friends though I have never approached any of them before. And I see them on a daily basis, so they already have judged me in their heads. Tomorrow will be my last shot. Thanks for the reply man, it makes sense a lot! Mind you, I'm 18 and she is probably too, maybe 17.
@JoeMarron:
I am indeed acting like a goddamn pvssy, I have told so myself a dozen of times, but that doesn't really seem to help. I would ask her out immediately if I had the standard "pretty boy" looks, which I unfortunately lack, which means I have to take it slower than the average guy. (Yes, my looks are that bad.)
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I will update this tomorrow. Most likely it will be a regretful post on how I hate myself and should've just approached her and stop giving a damn.
Oh...she may laugh in your face. You may have to face off with some alpha dude who has put his brand on that bessie.
She may also say yes.
You have to get over social humiliation. Your life will be more successful and fruitful if you do. The most important part of becoming socially successful is being able to handle moments that you AREN'T socially successful. If you're like me that will be a lot.
She may also say yes.
You have to get over social humiliation. Your life will be more successful and fruitful if you do. The most important part of becoming socially successful is being able to handle moments that you AREN'T socially successful. If you're like me that will be a lot.
"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
with an attitude like that why she want to talk to you anyway? Stop thinking so much, stop living in your head and talk to some girlsWolfbones said:@Kbomb:
I will update this tomorrow. Most likely it will be a regretful post on how I hate myself and should've just approached her and stop giving a damn.