Hey guys, I'm interested in this girl I see often for a few minutes. She's always with her friends but I need to get her number tomorrow for it is my last chance because it is the last day before summer break. I don't want to wait for a month or two.. I'm most likely not even gonna see her because this will be my last year at this place. Any way I can man the hell up and just do the damn deed? The day before I feel like "tomorrow I'm gonna do it!", and then when tomorrow's dawn breaks into my room, I can feel the anxiety kick in and end up not approaching her and going home with a lot of self hate and regrets. Can you guys please help me? I hate this.
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How to overcome AA?
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What happens, IN HER MIND, is that she comes to see you as WORTHLESS simply because she hasn't had to INVEST anything in you in order to get you or to keep you.
You were an interesting diversion while she had nothing else to do. But now that someone a little more valuable has come along, someone who expects her to treat him very well, she'll have no problem at all dropping you or demoting you to lowly "friendship" status.
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The thing is the answer is the thing you need to do to get over it. You can only get over it by doing it. That's the only way your body and brain will be able to reprocess the information as you learn that the alpha male will not come over and clobber you, or that she will not shriek rape or laugh in your face.
This is the only real way men and women usually interact, the man must make the moves. Knowing this helps because then you understand women actually want men to come up to them and talk to them. So many times i've gone up to girls and in my mind I think shes gonna blow me out, and in the end I find out she is incredibly receptive and has wished a guy would come up and talk to her.
You will be rejected, especially when your super nervous/inexperienced but it gets better. Trust me.
This is the only real way men and women usually interact, the man must make the moves. Knowing this helps because then you understand women actually want men to come up to them and talk to them. So many times i've gone up to girls and in my mind I think shes gonna blow me out, and in the end I find out she is incredibly receptive and has wished a guy would come up and talk to her.
You will be rejected, especially when your super nervous/inexperienced but it gets better. Trust me.
Small talk wherever you go. If you get into the habit of talking to people situations like that will seem less and less stressful. Practice in the mirror everyday if you have to. To make this more blunt...stop acting like a goddamn pvssy and ask her out already!
@Kbomb:
I don't believe in the alpha/beta hierarchy but whatever, you're right. Anyway, I'm not afraid of rejection, but merely of talking to her and her friends though I have never approached any of them before. And I see them on a daily basis, so they already have judged me in their heads. Tomorrow will be my last shot. Thanks for the reply man, it makes sense a lot! Mind you, I'm 18 and she is probably too, maybe 17.
@JoeMarron:
I am indeed acting like a goddamn pvssy, I have told so myself a dozen of times, but that doesn't really seem to help. I would ask her out immediately if I had the standard "pretty boy" looks, which I unfortunately lack, which means I have to take it slower than the average guy. (Yes, my looks are that bad.)
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I will update this tomorrow. Most likely it will be a regretful post on how I hate myself and should've just approached her and stop giving a damn.
I don't believe in the alpha/beta hierarchy but whatever, you're right. Anyway, I'm not afraid of rejection, but merely of talking to her and her friends though I have never approached any of them before. And I see them on a daily basis, so they already have judged me in their heads. Tomorrow will be my last shot. Thanks for the reply man, it makes sense a lot! Mind you, I'm 18 and she is probably too, maybe 17.
@JoeMarron:
I am indeed acting like a goddamn pvssy, I have told so myself a dozen of times, but that doesn't really seem to help. I would ask her out immediately if I had the standard "pretty boy" looks, which I unfortunately lack, which means I have to take it slower than the average guy. (Yes, my looks are that bad.)
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I will update this tomorrow. Most likely it will be a regretful post on how I hate myself and should've just approached her and stop giving a damn.
Oh...she may laugh in your face. You may have to face off with some alpha dude who has put his brand on that bessie.
She may also say yes.
You have to get over social humiliation. Your life will be more successful and fruitful if you do. The most important part of becoming socially successful is being able to handle moments that you AREN'T socially successful. If you're like me that will be a lot.
She may also say yes.
You have to get over social humiliation. Your life will be more successful and fruitful if you do. The most important part of becoming socially successful is being able to handle moments that you AREN'T socially successful. If you're like me that will be a lot.
