"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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I do this and then I cannot stop for a while. Usually this happens right after having to take a test or exam in school, or having to do something like that. I am sitting in front of the computer right now instead of doing something that I really want to be doing.


I appreciate any advice.
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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such are the fruits of living in a technological society, work on your inner game
 

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embrace your inner nerd, but please bring out your inner man with a few activites.. Have a nice glass of whiskey once in a while (jameson/canadian club). Lift some weights with serious intent to get stronger or look better.

Go hiking, read some manly books. Do some sprints once a week, on hills or you're a *****.

Eat a big fat ass piece of grilled steak at least 1-2 a week. tip olive oil + black pepper+cumin grill, then after add your salt.

Learn how to cook.

Pick up a mixed martial art a few times a week....I recommend muay thai cause you get to learn how to properly kick or elbow some one in the face multiple times.

Pick up some suave dancing lessons...Damnit I ****in' want to learn west coast swing dancing so legit!!

Go shoot a gun at a firing range.

Put up pictures of real men on room walls/fridge who inspire you, but put some pics of hawt women by em to so people don't think you caught the ghey ( i recommend Jamie Eason)

When you start thinking like a nerd, just tell yourself it's ok, yet ask yourself if you have done anything productive to get your mind off school and your nerdiness for a bit. Some of the aforementioned activities should help. If you're a nerd don't be ashamed, I think all men have a bit of nerd in em some more than others obviously. As long as you're not like a full blown Star Trek convention visiting dungeons and dragons gate keeper mofo you should be fine :)
 

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Do something creative or something physical. Use the other parts of your brain and use your body. Less thinking, more creative stuff.

Guitar, painting, martial arts, sports, or just simple work around the house fixing and building things.


Nice to take a mental break once in awhile.
 

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Once I start thinking like a nerd (focused inward), I appear weak. That is not good.

@CarlitosWay, I do much of that already, except I do not drink.

Alle_Gory said:
Do something creative or something physical. Use the other parts of your brain and use your body. Less thinking, more creative stuff.

Guitar, painting, martial arts, sports, or just simple work around the house fixing and building things.


Nice to take a mental break once in awhile.
You are right, just get moving breaks it. This is a good answer, thanks!
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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go out and socialize

it´s that simple

edit: I mean with normal people, not with nerds
 

Plinco

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Commandante said:
go out and socialize

it´s that simple

edit: I mean with normal people, not with nerds
I am not a nerd, I just think like one after doing my taxes or spending too much time on the computer.

I am not saying that is always a bad thing, it is just something I wanted to know how to get out of.
 

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Plinco said:
I am not a nerd, I just think like one after doing my taxes or spending too much time on the computer.

I am not saying that is always a bad thing, it is just something I wanted to know how to get out of.
I didn´t said you are a nerd.

But don´t go out with nerds, it won´t help you.
 

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Commandante said:
I didn´t said you are a nerd.

But don´t go out with nerds, it won´t help you.
I was a bigger nerd in high school than I am now mostly due to outgrowing most vices that I was interested in. Now, I embrace it. I still play video games from time to time, but focus on other things as well. its the diversity that makes or breaks you.

I have two types of friends, the nerdy ones and the more normal ones. I don't hang out with the first group often mostly because our interests are only sort of aligned. Do as the poster above me suggested and limit the time you hang out with the really nerdy friends. They will not help your cause when it comes to personal growth or getting a cute chicks number.
 

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Plinco said:
You are right, just get moving breaks it. This is a good answer, thanks!
Try a team sport. Soccer's fun and cheap. Good exercise and you need to learn how to deal with group dynamics.
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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What does it mean to think like a nerd? What do nerds think about?

I could be a nerd and not even know it.
 
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