"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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How to not come off as Creepy

we all eat food

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i apporach a girl at the mall yesterday who was a HB8.5 and I made little EC with her and I said hey and sat next to her, and she gave me this look like Get the **** away from you creep, and she walked up and left.

What the hell did I do wrong?
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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Don't approach girls and put them on the spot like that unless you've made eye contact across the way or something.

Maybe you should have said something along the lines of, "Is this seat taken?"

That leaves a girl to say something creative like, "It's taken now, sit!"
 

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Your probally ugly.

It's never creepy when your not ugly.
 

superchristx

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NOT true. I used to hear creepy all the time, now I never get it and if anything, I'm even uglier than I was. Creepy means not congruent, maybe you are trying to act confident but show small signs of insecurity. Or maybe you are acting really friendly and casual, but showing small signs of lust.
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Bvbidd

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No.. it's none of that.

I was right.

If she was attracted to you she'd enjoy the attention, if she's not then your creepy. Sorry but it's just the truth.

Mabye approach an uglier girl?
 

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superchristx said:
acting really friendly and casual, but showing small signs of lust.
That's what your supposed to do. IF YOUR NOT UGLY.
 

“The 22 Rules That Turned Me From Invisible to Irresistible With Women… Starting Tonight”

You can skip the expensive cars, the fancy clothes, and the endless gym selfies. Completely unnecessary.

I used to freeze the second a beautiful woman looked my way. Frustrated. Awkward. Watching other guys walk away with the girl while I stood there tongue-tied.

Then I discovered 22 simple rules that rewired my entire dating life. The anxiety vanished. Conversations flowed effortlessly. Women started chasing me for a change.

These rules trigger a woman's subconscious attraction switches. And you can start using them tonight.

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we all eat food said:
im not ugly, im 16 but i look like im 13.

^^ 13? WOW! anyone ever told you before that chiks like older men?? She tough you are some weird looking psicho visiting the school. Anyways, well drop thinking about her or any other chik that acts *****y. Some women are so weird, ohh so true so true!!! Next time dont sit near her like your a frikin statue, meet her, ask her questions, tell her few jokes, let her know ur interested...... Good luck
 

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Shydude, what possible reason would you have for wanting to let a girl know you're interested?

Have you learned anything the entire time you've been here?
 

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^^WDF!!! All i ment to say was let her know why u r there!! Couse if u just come there and sit by she will think WDF Does he want!! And this is High school MAN, You dont need to follow " pick up artist" routines! Just let her know why u r there.
 

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LMAO respect to Bvbidd! So blunt yet so true...

Anyways we all eat food, notice how Bvidd said "Your PROBABLY ugly" so don't take it TOO personally.

With so little detail and no video recording of the pickup, I think its impossible to determine what exactly went wrong.

But heres a little guess. Choose from the list:

a) You had the horny hunter vibe. Not good.
b) You were too forward. Too little eyecontact and interaction before you sat down.
c) She had PMS (80% chance on this one) or didn't feel like socializing.
d) You stink (as in smell-wise)

But those are just guesses ;)
 

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To "we all eat food"...yes it's true we do all eat food.

Anyway bro you couldv'e told her "Uhh I think your sitting on my seat so either you pay me $2 or pay me by having a deep and meaningful conversation with me."

Nah brother just take it easy eh, don't get down from the looks your getting because it's bound to change sooner or later.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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