"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

Read more...

How to not care about rejections

marmel75

Master Don Juan
Joined
Jan 4, 2012
Messages
7,175
Reaction score
5,571
zonn said:
That don't mean $hit. My best buddy is a salesman and he is very good at it. When i told him about cold approach pickup i thought he was going to kill it - he does cold approach sales all day long. But when it came to approaching women in bars he coulden't do it. Edventully he found his g/f from work. Good at sales don't always equate to good at pickup.
Well, I think you could use the same skill set you used to become good at cold approaching at work to become cold approaching women. The difference at this point is he cares too much about the outcome with women whereas he views sales as a "numbers game", ie, he knows if he approaches x amount of people he will get x amount of sales. As you become better at this, the number of people you talk to per sale becomes lower and lower. If he viewed women as a "numbers game", he'd likely have the same mindset as in sales, and the same improved ability of talking to X number of women per success.
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

Read more...

evan12

Master Don Juan
Joined
Jun 2, 2012
Messages
1,371
Reaction score
313
All great reply's better of what I was expecting, I think I am too sensitive for what other think about me , now need to wear more thick skin for this job .

for some reason when I dont have any woman I takes the approche like a life or death matter even if I am not looking for any thing from that woman .
 
Top