"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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how to motivate yourself to work out

check_mate_kid_uk

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Have a snack after working out, like a protein bar or somthing that you eat after working out. If you dont work out you dont eat it, so if your hungry you will work out so you get to eat.

This works for me because i have a fairly strict diet because if i eat when im hungry i cant maintain 9% bofyfat.

If you eat when you want, this obviously wont help you, unless you work out in the evening and say to yourself, im not going to eat anything else for the rest of the night unless i work out. But then you got to make sure you keep to that :p
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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mrRuckus

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Isn't the fact that you're a lot more likely to get diabetes, die of heart disease, and be fat when you get older enough if you don't go?

Or how about being more successful with women, being able to defend yourself better, haveingmore self confidence, feeling generally better and happier if you do go?


What do you want? A pill?
 

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wtf? you can't eat when you want???

Dude, are you anorexic or something, EAT WHEN YOU want. That's when your body needs energy...

If you want to maintain a certain weight, do more cardio, don't starve your body.
 

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Hey dont start accusing me of not being able to motivate myself. I can, but im sure im not the only one here that sometimes feels like they cant be bothered.

I dont starve myself, i have a decent breakfast lunch and dinner, and a few other bits and pieces during the day, im certainly not anerixic, i do cardio a few times a week but if i eat what ever i want my weight stabalises at about 72kg and a 13% body fat, which is alright but its not 'cut' so now i weigh about 67kg and around 9% bodyfat.
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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WesCottII

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Originally posted by check_mate_kid_uk
Hey dont start accusing me of not being able to motivate myself. I can, but im sure im not the only one here that sometimes feels like they cant be bothered.
I don't know about the rest of the guys, but I never feel that I can't be bothered. I love it. lifting weights. feeling great. I live for it.
 

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I remember reading in several places that rewarding yourself for doing something you don't like has a tendency to backfire and turn you off to the reward - you associate it with the thing you don't like and it loses value in your eyes.

Here's my theory on motivation: You do something because you like doing it, not because of what doing it will get you. On the other hand, if you don't like doing something, then no amount of benefit will motivate you to do it.

I think that this is the best way of explaining how many people who do things are seemingly unmindful of rewards or benefits and how many more people who don't do things seem not to care about what they're losing.
 

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Watch a little bit of a bodybuilding film before hitting the gym. A particular favourite in the sport is the scene In 'Pumping Iron' where Ed Corney goes to total failure on squats and collapses on the ground afterwards - Arnold just racks the weight and gets ready to start his set.

Or, B, listen to some death metal - get angry - lift.
 
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