"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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how to motivate yourself to work out

check_mate_kid_uk

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Have a snack after working out, like a protein bar or somthing that you eat after working out. If you dont work out you dont eat it, so if your hungry you will work out so you get to eat.

This works for me because i have a fairly strict diet because if i eat when im hungry i cant maintain 9% bofyfat.

If you eat when you want, this obviously wont help you, unless you work out in the evening and say to yourself, im not going to eat anything else for the rest of the night unless i work out. But then you got to make sure you keep to that :p
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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mrRuckus

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Isn't the fact that you're a lot more likely to get diabetes, die of heart disease, and be fat when you get older enough if you don't go?

Or how about being more successful with women, being able to defend yourself better, haveingmore self confidence, feeling generally better and happier if you do go?


What do you want? A pill?
 

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wtf? you can't eat when you want???

Dude, are you anorexic or something, EAT WHEN YOU want. That's when your body needs energy...

If you want to maintain a certain weight, do more cardio, don't starve your body.
 

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Hey dont start accusing me of not being able to motivate myself. I can, but im sure im not the only one here that sometimes feels like they cant be bothered.

I dont starve myself, i have a decent breakfast lunch and dinner, and a few other bits and pieces during the day, im certainly not anerixic, i do cardio a few times a week but if i eat what ever i want my weight stabalises at about 72kg and a 13% body fat, which is alright but its not 'cut' so now i weigh about 67kg and around 9% bodyfat.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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WesCottII

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Originally posted by check_mate_kid_uk
Hey dont start accusing me of not being able to motivate myself. I can, but im sure im not the only one here that sometimes feels like they cant be bothered.
I don't know about the rest of the guys, but I never feel that I can't be bothered. I love it. lifting weights. feeling great. I live for it.
 

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I remember reading in several places that rewarding yourself for doing something you don't like has a tendency to backfire and turn you off to the reward - you associate it with the thing you don't like and it loses value in your eyes.

Here's my theory on motivation: You do something because you like doing it, not because of what doing it will get you. On the other hand, if you don't like doing something, then no amount of benefit will motivate you to do it.

I think that this is the best way of explaining how many people who do things are seemingly unmindful of rewards or benefits and how many more people who don't do things seem not to care about what they're losing.
 

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Watch a little bit of a bodybuilding film before hitting the gym. A particular favourite in the sport is the scene In 'Pumping Iron' where Ed Corney goes to total failure on squats and collapses on the ground afterwards - Arnold just racks the weight and gets ready to start his set.

Or, B, listen to some death metal - get angry - lift.
 
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