"The Kiss of Death Mistake"
You replay the conversation at 2 a.m. She texted back fast yesterday. Today, nothing. Was that smile friendly or flirty? What did the shoulder touch mean?
Every hour you spend decoding her signals drains your confidence and hands her the controls. Women can sense that insecurity from across the room — and it repels them.
One of the "22 Rules" kills the obsession on the spot: assume she likes you, and act accordingly. Sounds too simple. Works anyway.
Her interest tends to rise to meet your expectations. Psychologists call it a self-fulfilling prophecy.
How to mentally become more masculine?
- Thread starter Demystify
- Start date
"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
thecurtainfalls
Senior Don Juan
Anyway, while changes I've notices, (along with the physical benefits) would be that I'm a lot more easy-going, able to handle stressful situations better, generally more cheerful. BUT, know i won't take sh1t for no reason.
It's weird though - in that it's actually harder to get a rise out of me these days.
OMG, I knew the first response would involve lifting weights. I DO NOT look good muscular, I look way way worse, trust me. I lifted weights for three years and it made me look WAY more awkward than I previously looked. When I was muscular it didn't make me look like a masculine stud, it made me look like a nerd who lifted weights thinking it would actually get him laid. Plus the type of girls I like DO NOT like muscular guys.thecurtainfalls said:You think growing stronger every day and pushing hundreds of pounds of weight doesn't affect the masculinity of your mind?
I will agree that working out does make you more positive mentally, but I don't think it makes you masculine mentally.
So anyone else care to tell me some ways to become more masculine that DO NOT INVOLVE WORKING OUT?
ChalengeGuyFan
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"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
Play a sport, especially a competitive team sport. I find competing with other players playing soccer really boosts my aggression/assertiveness and confidence off the playing field.Demystify said:OMG, I knew the first response would involve lifting weights. I DO NOT look good muscular, I look way way worse, trust me. I lifted weights for three years and it made me look WAY more awkward than I previously looked. When I was muscular it didn't make me look like a masculine stud, it made me look like a nerd who lifted weights thinking it would actually get him laid. Plus the type of girls I like DO NOT like muscular guys.
I will agree that working out does make you more positive mentally, but I don't think it makes you masculine mentally.
So anyone else care to tell me some ways to become more masculine that DO NOT INVOLVE WORKING OUT?
I'm actually going to be doing that soon. Any advice?fuzzx said:Teach English in a 3rd world country.
Where are you going? I am hoping to go to China to do this early next year.Demystify said:I'm actually going to be doing that soon. Any advice?