Why "Whatever You Want" Keeps You Single
She says the movie looks dumb; you suddenly agree. She tests you with a little attitude; you apologize for nothing.
You think you're being easy to get along with. She reads something else entirely: a man with no edges. Nothing to hold on to. No friction, no tension, no reason to wonder what he really thinks.
The "22 Rules" taught me to push back — playfully, calmly, without needing her approval. Strange things happened after that.
How to mentally become more masculine?
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"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
thecurtainfalls
Senior Don Juan
Anyway, while changes I've notices, (along with the physical benefits) would be that I'm a lot more easy-going, able to handle stressful situations better, generally more cheerful. BUT, know i won't take sh1t for no reason.
It's weird though - in that it's actually harder to get a rise out of me these days.
OMG, I knew the first response would involve lifting weights. I DO NOT look good muscular, I look way way worse, trust me. I lifted weights for three years and it made me look WAY more awkward than I previously looked. When I was muscular it didn't make me look like a masculine stud, it made me look like a nerd who lifted weights thinking it would actually get him laid. Plus the type of girls I like DO NOT like muscular guys.thecurtainfalls said:You think growing stronger every day and pushing hundreds of pounds of weight doesn't affect the masculinity of your mind?
I will agree that working out does make you more positive mentally, but I don't think it makes you masculine mentally.
So anyone else care to tell me some ways to become more masculine that DO NOT INVOLVE WORKING OUT?
ChalengeGuyFan
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"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
Play a sport, especially a competitive team sport. I find competing with other players playing soccer really boosts my aggression/assertiveness and confidence off the playing field.Demystify said:OMG, I knew the first response would involve lifting weights. I DO NOT look good muscular, I look way way worse, trust me. I lifted weights for three years and it made me look WAY more awkward than I previously looked. When I was muscular it didn't make me look like a masculine stud, it made me look like a nerd who lifted weights thinking it would actually get him laid. Plus the type of girls I like DO NOT like muscular guys.
I will agree that working out does make you more positive mentally, but I don't think it makes you masculine mentally.
So anyone else care to tell me some ways to become more masculine that DO NOT INVOLVE WORKING OUT?
I'm actually going to be doing that soon. Any advice?fuzzx said:Teach English in a 3rd world country.
Where are you going? I am hoping to go to China to do this early next year.Demystify said:I'm actually going to be doing that soon. Any advice?