"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
How to mentally become more masculine?
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"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"
You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.
She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.
Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.
Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.
thecurtainfalls
Senior Don Juan
Anyway, while changes I've notices, (along with the physical benefits) would be that I'm a lot more easy-going, able to handle stressful situations better, generally more cheerful. BUT, know i won't take sh1t for no reason.
It's weird though - in that it's actually harder to get a rise out of me these days.
OMG, I knew the first response would involve lifting weights. I DO NOT look good muscular, I look way way worse, trust me. I lifted weights for three years and it made me look WAY more awkward than I previously looked. When I was muscular it didn't make me look like a masculine stud, it made me look like a nerd who lifted weights thinking it would actually get him laid. Plus the type of girls I like DO NOT like muscular guys.thecurtainfalls said:You think growing stronger every day and pushing hundreds of pounds of weight doesn't affect the masculinity of your mind?
I will agree that working out does make you more positive mentally, but I don't think it makes you masculine mentally.
So anyone else care to tell me some ways to become more masculine that DO NOT INVOLVE WORKING OUT?
ChalengeGuyFan
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"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
Play a sport, especially a competitive team sport. I find competing with other players playing soccer really boosts my aggression/assertiveness and confidence off the playing field.Demystify said:OMG, I knew the first response would involve lifting weights. I DO NOT look good muscular, I look way way worse, trust me. I lifted weights for three years and it made me look WAY more awkward than I previously looked. When I was muscular it didn't make me look like a masculine stud, it made me look like a nerd who lifted weights thinking it would actually get him laid. Plus the type of girls I like DO NOT like muscular guys.
I will agree that working out does make you more positive mentally, but I don't think it makes you masculine mentally.
So anyone else care to tell me some ways to become more masculine that DO NOT INVOLVE WORKING OUT?
I'm actually going to be doing that soon. Any advice?fuzzx said:Teach English in a 3rd world country.
Where are you going? I am hoping to go to China to do this early next year.Demystify said:I'm actually going to be doing that soon. Any advice?