"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
How to make women feel protected and safe!?
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"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
Scars
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But you don't need something extreme like that to happen either. There's little things you can do. While crossing the street hold her hand. She will remember little stuff like that. Warn her about certain dangers. "Hey babe, look out for that car" etc.. be the prime decision maker also. She might even test you once in awhile. If you feel something is unsafe, then don't let her do it obviously. Sacrificing can help too, without being beta about it. For instance, you're on a hiking trip and you're both low on water, she looks beat and is about to pass out, give her the last of yours etc..
I wouldn't really worry so much about this too much unless you're really serious, married, or have kids. Having a kid will allow you much more opportunities for this, as she will be paying more attention on how you act and protect the kids rather than her.
-Scars
when you act weird due to low confidence it makes them feel anxiety or 'less secure' and then they dump you.
so in short, be confident, pass sh!t tests with ease and they feel safe and secure.
and if you're wondering about feeling protected from muggers and robbers because you have some huge muscles or mma skills, forget about all that, its overrated and meaningless in this day and age.
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The reason girls like tall guys is because the height makes the girl feel safe, so yeah.Cassify said:
A lot of bouncers that I see are not even muscular, just tall and fat and a part their job is to intimidate, I even saw a lanky one once lol
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Yeah I'll agree with this.PairPlusRoyalFlush said:
I'm 5'8" (shorter than a lot of guys) and have not been in a fight in over 10 years. If someone looks like they want to start trouble with me, I glare at them and that always diffuses it right there. It's not about you being able to mess somebody up, it's about you making the other dude think you can mess him up.
"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
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Then the picture of the rifle, thats a great line ,the guys from the marketing department at the NRA would love me.
Now seriously the one with which I agree the most is st_99, girls are different than us, we feel safe when the ammo box at home is full and our safe is full of gold, they feel safe mostly on a emotional level which is directly proportional to your self-confidence and aura.
A poor scumbag who show self confidence in his stupidity and helplessness makes his girl feel more safe than a white collar with a good job and a fat insurance who constantly ask her if she think that particular idea is good or bad.