"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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How to make the time to do what you want and improve yourself

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Over the years I've heard a lot of men complain "I don't have time to go to the gym" or do something similar. In the meantime, they find the time to spend 2 hours per day watching TV.

If you can't find the time to work out, obviously you don't the time to watch TV. Or play video games. Or sit on your ass and do nothing. Or post on SoSuave.

What's that? You are playing video games? And watching TV? There's nothing wrong with doing that stuff on its own, but it IS a problem when it is preventing you from improving yourself like you want.

Need to make more time to do stuff? Do it before you waste time doing something self indulgent like watching TV. Take a shorter shower. Wake up 30 minutes earlier. It's not hard to find a little time.

99% of the time when somebody says "I don't have time to do that", they actually mean "I can't be bothered to make an effort to do that because I'm lazy and would rather jerk off in my comfort zone".

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"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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ThreeStorms

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Most of the things I would like to do but do not find time for involve being creative on the PC. My problem is that all those wonderful sites steal away precious geek time. I simply cannot seperate productive and non-productive hours in front of this machine.
 
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