You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
Flirting is natural. It happens. To be honest, I'm not quite sure what you're asking. What makes you assume that she actually cares how you feel about her "flirting" with another guy? In my opinion, you are over thinking this entire situation. Step back, and continue to talk to her however you were before, but at the same time, continue to talk to other girls as well.johnnysmith2224 said:I was having this flirty conversation with this girl, and I ended up hearing that she also kinda did a similar thing to another guy, but to a lesser extent. I think she feels bad because she thinks I think she's a creep, so is there a way for me to ensure that she knows I don't look at her that way and that I don't mind? We're both in high school.
Let me see if I get this right. You don't want her to think you minded her flirting with you, yet you are going to cut contact with her??? Now she WILL definitely think that her flirting offended you (which I still don't see why she would think such a thing in the first place). Just talk to her bro, quit over thinking everything. No Jedi mind tricks are needed here.johnnysmith2224 said:I don't want her to think that I minded her flirting with me... because I honestly enjoyed it. Idk. I'll cut contact for a few days and see if she contacts me I suppose.
You can skip the expensive cars, the fancy clothes, and the endless gym selfies. Completely unnecessary.
I used to freeze the second a beautiful woman looked my way. Frustrated. Awkward. Watching other guys walk away with the girl while I stood there tongue-tied.
Then I discovered 22 simple rules that rewired my entire dating life. The anxiety vanished. Conversations flowed effortlessly. Women started chasing me for a change.
These rules trigger a woman's subconscious attraction switches. And you can start using them tonight.
Don't get me wrong here, nothing bad with asking her to your house. That's great, you took the initiative like Amante said too. HOWEVER, personal opinion here, asking her to your HOUSE might have been the problem. Believe it or not, a lot of girls hear house and instantly assume SEX. Which, could have been the reason why she seemed receptive to the idea initially, but later backed out. She got scared. Ask her to the movies, dinner, beach, etc. If she accepts, awesome. Let her get comfortable around you first then ask her back to your place. If she declines all requests, just back off. She lost interest, move on. Good luck.johnnysmith2224 said:I asked her to cOme to my house
Explainjohnnysmith2224 said:but offers me other times for me to offer?
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.
Like I said earlier, you're over-thinking everything. If she gives you an open day, take it. YOU make the plans. Don't ask her what she want's to do and what time to do it. This will just give her an opportunity to flake out. She's free Saturday? Tell her, "X if having a party, pick you up at 9."(party) "I'll make reservations for X at 9, pick you up at 8." (dinner) "X is playing at 9, pick you at 8."(movie) The difference is I'm not asking her if she want's to do X, I'm telling her to do X. If she declines, she's not interested. Waste your time and energy on something/someone else.johnnysmith2224 said:And by offering other times, I mean by her pretty much saying "weekends before this time but not this day blah blah blah would be a little better."