"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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how to make freinds in 30s

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hey everyone (title),

was wondering how people make friends and join social groups in their 30s. Im not going to lie, im sort of scared that im going to be running into some issues during that time period in terms of making friends since im not the best at it, so i was wondering if you have any reccomendations on how to do this if so.

any reccomendations from anyone? If so, thanks
 

“The 22 Rules That Turned Me From Invisible to Irresistible With Women… Starting Tonight”

You can skip the expensive cars, the fancy clothes, and the endless gym selfies. Completely unnecessary.

I used to freeze the second a beautiful woman looked my way. Frustrated. Awkward. Watching other guys walk away with the girl while I stood there tongue-tied.

Then I discovered 22 simple rules that rewired my entire dating life. The anxiety vanished. Conversations flowed effortlessly. Women started chasing me for a change.

These rules trigger a woman's subconscious attraction switches. And you can start using them tonight.

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The key to making good friends with males is to have common interests. So if you have any hobbies or sports you really enjoy, that might be the first place to start looking. When I was working on my social skills (although this was in my 20s), I used to constantly try to seek opportunities. Start with your social group or the people you work with, whoever you know, and try to expand from there, network, try to get invited to parties, trips, activities. Sort of like those movies where you're always saying yes, you don't say no. Be on the lookout for new experiences and new interests, you might enjoy them.
 

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The key to making good friends with males is to have common interests. So if you have any hobbies or sports you really enjoy, that might be the first place to start looking. When I was working on my social skills (although this was in my 20s), I used to constantly try to seek opportunities. Start with your social group or the people you work with, whoever you know, and try to expand from there, network, try to get invited to parties, trips, activities. Sort of like those movies where you're always saying yes, you don't say no. Be on the lookout for new experiences and new interests, you might enjoy them.
what types of comment interests and hobbies and sports do you think yield the highest return on investment?
 

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what types of comment interests and hobbies and sports do you think yield the highest return on investment?
No idea. But I'd say it's a mix between whatever you are most authentically interested in and what's popular in your area.
 

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Zekko is right, it's a combination of having a daily activity that you like to do and what's popular in the area. I'm into basketball and maybe karaoke, so those seems to be good ways to bond with people out here where I'm at. I'd check around and ask around, better do your research and don't get discourage when things don't go your way the first few times around.
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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Divorced w 3

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The key to making good friends with males is to have common interests. So if you have any hobbies or sports you really enjoy, that might be the first place to start looking. When I was working on my social skills (although this was in my 20s), I used to constantly try to seek opportunities. Start with your social group or the people you work with, whoever you know, and try to expand from there, network, try to get invited to parties, trips, activities. Sort of like those movies where you're always saying yes, you don't say no. Be on the lookout for new experiences and new interests, you might enjoy them.
Do this, plus expand into your professional networks as well. Find networking breakfasts, lunches and dinners, and then start to build out connections there. It’ll give you an added bonus of opening doors for new business.
 

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Slow and steady and regular...rushing in will make you look desperate or potentially gay.

Gym is my main scene, the odd comment then a week later, a sentence. And later a bit more longer chat. Perhaps even find out their name!
 
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