"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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How to make a girl "work for it" ?

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Who is to say that when a woman likes you, she wants compliments, gifts, plenty of care, and etc?

When I am with a girl I like, I want from her the same thing she wants from me.

She wants to go out or just see me, talk, flirt, kiss, sex. I want the same thing.
I don't want much else from her and she doesn't want much else from me.



So, if I am not to give her what she wants, how is she going to work for it?

She asks for to go out or have sex and I will say "No".

What can she do? Try again? Is that working for it?

If I say YES then I get it. If I say NO then I don't get it.

No girl will buy you gifts so you can have sex with her. At least none with self respect. They can just go find another guy.


So, I don't understand the essence of MAKING HER WORK for it if she likes you.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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The idea is that it people value things more when they have to work a little to get them. Nobody is going to go after you if you appear completely unattainable, but nobody is going to want to attain you if you make your self attainable to everyone.

Girls like to feel like they like you because you are somehow special and that you like them because they are somehow special. You have to set up this mindframe, but not from a position of need. You are special, so she has to be special to match you. Once she has demonstrated how valuable she is, you give her a little reward :)

Don't flat out say yes or no. make it a little more flirtatious. If she takes you out, make her invest a little in you (either picking you up from your house, paying for coffee, etc.). IF she has to do something out of her way to get to hang out with you some of the time, then she would rationalize it as you are valuable both to her and other people.
 
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lebRambo said:
The idea is that it people value things more when they have to work a little to get them. Nobody is going to go after you if you appear completely unattainable, but nobody is going to want to attain you if you make your self attainable to everyone.

Girls like to feel like they like you because you are somehow special and that you like them because they are somehow special. You have to set up this mindframe, but not from a position of need. You are special, so she has to be special to match you. Once she has demonstrated how valuable she is, you give her a little reward :)

Don't flat out say yes or no. make it a little more flirtatious. If she takes you out, make her invest a little in you (either picking you up from your house, paying for coffee, etc.). IF she has to do something out of her way to get to hang out with you some of the time, then she would rationalize it as you are valuable both to her and other people.
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So, its like a girl working real hard as a waitress to get her Honda first car. Because she works so hard to earn it, she values it when she gets it more than if she'd value if she did nothing to get it, RIGHT?

But what if you are a FERRARI? Don't you think a person would value a FERRARI they got for free more than a Honda they had to work for?


And I don't know how to reward girls besides kissing or "Thank you, it was nice of you"

I mean, a girl picks me and I say "You have pretty eyes" and she's going to look at me silly...
 
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"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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