Hamurabimbi
Master Don Juan
Be prepared for ypur attempts to fail. Girls, iver the yesrs, have tried to get me to munch. I never have. She may refuse as well.
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Not sure about the ass eating. Not very sanitary; nor is anal. I guess it's a power thing in my head. She bled last time we tried it, and it was with half a bottle of lube. Hard for me to press when that's the situation...Mine doesn't do either but she likes her a[ss] getting eaten. Won't let me put a finger in there. Weird girl.
I don't even like oral that much but I want to work her to a point where she does it once in a while. Thus I am here asking for tips
Robbydog and @Konada are right. Avoiding the subject is the beta move. You are not setting boundaries and prioritizing your needs. I understand not being too overt and obvious, but at this point, you've set a precedent over the last year that it's not required.If this is important to you, you need to bring it up directly and say what you want. A man should be comfortable with expressing his needs and wants. It’s actually very nice-guy ish to be indirect and passive like you’re suggesting.
I am with 2Rocky here. All the ways my situation is and got f-ed up are for another post, but I am unhappily married to a woman that is less than enthusiastic with bjs...although she does give them. If I had known then, what I know now, I would have done exactly what 2Rocky suggests.You tell her that Oral Sex is a must have for you and be prepared to drop her the minute she refuses. She set a line in the sand and either accept it or don't. Sounds like you are going to resent it so save yourself the effort. Bail now or abandon your standard...
This guy gets my point. Regardless if it is oral, or but$ex, or eating Fish on Friday...If there is something that you hold dear and she doesn't, either tell her early on and be true to yourself.I am with 2Rocky here. All the ways my situation is and got f-ed up are for another post, but I am unhappily married to a woman that is less than enthusiastic with bjs...although she does give them. If I had known then, what I know now, I would have done exactly what 2Rocky suggests.
Another guy on here suggested that certain girls are just not into it no matter who the guy is. I tend to agree with this. However, even if it is not a sign of low interest on her part, but just something she is against for whatever crazy reason, why would you want to be with a girl that won't do a bj?
Her reason for not making you happy is not important IMHO. The fact is, she refuses to. You don't need that. Find a woman that makes you happy before you get too many entanglements with a woman that doesn't make you happy.
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Why are you guilting him for wanting the BJ or possibly ending the relationship over this? He should care more about his girl respecting him and wanting to please him. In return, he supports her, would physically defend her, and share his lifestyle with her. I would never stay in an LTR with a girl who refuses to give BJ's.Just reading the title tells me you care more about the BJ than the Girl.
how to MAKE a girl who DOESN'T LIKE bj's blow me
From the get go it is about forcing her to do something against her will....
It is not "how to make a woman like and want to give oral sex."
OP if you do succeed in your quest she will resent it and that will be the end of your relationship....
So if he said "how do I make my best male friend have anal sex with me?" would you say his best friend doesn't respect him enough to do something he dislikes?Why are you guilting him for wanting the BJ or possibly ending the relationship over this? He should care more about his girl respecting him and wanting to please him. In return, he supports her, would physically defend her, and share his lifestyle with her. I would never stay in an LTR with a girl who refuses to give BJ's.
The only problem is the OP is trying to get her to give BJ's without confronting the issue with the girl directly. He needs to set boundaries that a oral sex is necessary in a relationship for him.
I get what you're saying, but I don't think that's a fair comparison. Let's say his girlfriend didn't have sex with him at all. Wouldn't you say it's probably because she doesn't respect him as an alpha or valuable man?So if he said "how do I make my best male friend have anal sex with me?" would you say his best friend doesn't respect him enough to do something he dislikes?
Fair playCan't force a woman to do something she doesn't want to do. She will pick up on any attempts at manipulation and consider it weak.
If it's that important to you, then your only option is to dump her. If she means more to you than BJs, then forget about oral sex.
No, direct is NOT beta or needy. Beating round the bush and trying to sneak in the back door, manipulate or indirectly ask for or get someone to do something is beta. Alphas use direct communication, end of. You are over-complicating it - there's no magic pill or secret set of words or techniques to 'make her give you a bj'. Just good old honest, direct communication.there must be ways of escalating it without being direct and just asking. I feel thats more beta than anything else
Actually I've been following this thread over the past weeks. I had a similar situation, there has been this girl that I've been f'cking. So far we have f'cked probably about 4 times. She's 18 and for some reason, from the very first time, she never gave me a BJ. I would eat her out (something I enjoy doing) but she would never return the favor. A few times, I would push her head down as we were making out but she would not do it.
BUT MOST RECENTLY, SHE FINALLY DID IT! And it was a hilarious surprise.
We recently hooked up and things go wild really quickly; I went down on her and made her *** then we f'cked and this time in the heat of the moment, I told her I want her to put it in her mouth. Which surprisingly she finally did. But here's the surprise, it was probably the worst BJ I ever had. Maybe because of her inexperience and the fact she does not do it or like doing it, it just wasn't that good.
So my case might not apply to everybody but sometimes you need to push for it and if there is resistance there's probably a reason. In my case, she is very young and she is inexperienced and it really wasn't enjoyable. Hopefully, she'll get better.
It’s your job to educate this young ‘unActually I've been following this thread over the past weeks. I had a similar situation, there has been this girl that I've been f'cking. So far we have f'cked probably about 4 times. She's 18 and for some reason, from the very first time, she never gave me a BJ. I would eat her out (something I enjoy doing) but she would never return the favor. A few times, I would push her head down as we were making out but she would not do it.
BUT MOST RECENTLY, SHE FINALLY DID IT! And it was a hilarious surprise.
We recently hooked up and things go wild really quickly; I went down on her and made her *** then we f'cked and this time in the heat of the moment, I told her I want her to put it in her mouth. Which surprisingly she finally did. But here's the surprise, it was probably the worst BJ I ever had. Maybe because of her inexperience and the fact she does not do it or like doing it, it just wasn't that good.
So my case might not apply to everybody but sometimes you need to push for it and if there is resistance there's probably a reason. In my case, she is very young and she is inexperienced and it really wasn't enjoyable. Hopefully, she'll get better.
she probably doesn’t like youHello,
Been with my girl for around a year, but early in she said bj is just something she doesn't do. Possibly due to past trauma.
I told her that's fine and said she doesn't ever have to do something she doesn't want to avoid begging, or coming across as needy.
I obviously don't want to live a life without bjs, so do any Dons have advice for working her up? She's very receptive sexually to me and will do most things I ask. But I want to work her up slowly so it becomes her idea rather than mine.
Any advice? I have unlimited time and patience