"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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How to maintain interest long distance?

Chickfight

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So say there's a girl who's really really into you, but you can't be together because you left to a different country. How do you maintain attraction without being there with her anymore? Is it even possible?

I tried it before with the girl I'm talking about who I had a summer fling with, but it didn't turn out well. Maybe she lost interest, I don't know.
Eventually I met up with her again when I went to visit the country she's in the past holidays (to see family and friends). Now she's even more "in love" with me than before. I could make her do almost anything at this point. We also got a lot more physical this time, BUT I'm halfway across the globe again.

I'm supposed to phone her later today, but I don't want to repeat the same mistakes as last time which I think were way too much messaging and calling without any physicality. When I'm there it's easy to make her go crazy for me, but what now?

EDIT: oh and before anyone mentions it, I DO have plates over here, but I still want to maintain this one. She's definitely my favorite in a while.
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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Don't waste too much time on long distance relationships.

Unless you know you are going to be in her physical location soon, don't waste too much time on contacting her, and focus on other chicks.

And then when you know you are going to be near her again, re-initiate contact to get the fires stoked again.

Chances are, however, in the mean time, that she will find another dude who is around more than you are.

So, at least you won't waste too much time on a prospect with minimal chance of success.
 

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it really cant be done.
 

Chickfight

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Yeah I agree with you runner. I told her it won't really work out because of the distance, but we'll figure it out when we see each other again. I'll probably call her every few weeks or so.

I'm not really worried some other guy will get her though. All the guys she meets are hyper christian virgins. I really had to bring out the big guns to get her so she's definitely not easy to get either.

One other thing I fvcking hate about this distance is the time delay on the phone, it fvcks with the flow of the convo.
 

"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"

You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.

She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.

Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.

Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.

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The only thing you can 'do' is to be the highest value man around, leaving her with no better options. However, whatever value you hold in her life, the value will very likely quickly degenerate and dissolve as the options of other men flood her proximity, despite your conceptions of the men she has exposure—if she found you in her proximity she will find other guys with your caliber of high value. Love is closely tied to geographical proximity. You must be the most interesting man in the world to overcome distance, which you most assuredly are not.
 

Chickfight

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Rogue said:
The only thing you can 'do' is to be the highest value man around, leaving her with no better options. However, whatever value you hold in her life, the value will very likely quickly degenerate and dissolve as the options of other men flood her proximity, despite your conceptions of the men she has exposure—if she found you in her proximity she will find other guys with your caliber of high value. Love is closely tied to geographical proximity. You must be the most interesting man in the world to overcome distance, which you most assuredly are not.
Yes, good points you make, but I still feel confident that she won't fall for any other guys for a few reasons.

-She lives in China and she's not really into Asian dudes, especially the local ones. Not so much a race thing as an attitude thing.
-She's tall for a girl, (5'10'') which already eliminates a large percentage of guys, especially in China. I'm 6'2''.
-She doesn't party and hardly drinks
-We have bonded a lot and legitimately have great chemistry. Always have fun together and she's been into me for the past 6 months.
-I have better game than most guys my age and definitely guys her age.
-She's religious and believe me that's a fvcking hard shield to break down.

I don't want to come across as an ego stroking douche, but I'm listing these things as reasons why it won't be easy for her to come across a guy with higher value than me. At least in her eyes.
I've lived there for many years and I, unlike her, do go out often and meet a lot of strangers and I rarely come across a guy who I can't out game. I honestly do feel like it was a big fluke she met a guy like me.

So unless these choir boy friends of hers have some jesus magic up their sleeves, I think I'm good in that area. Any other thoughts?
 
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