How to maintain an aura of manliness w/o having manly things?

[WORKEROUTER]

Here's the issue I face.

Some days, I'm ultra confident, while other days, when things aren't going too well, I'm not.

In the past month, I bought a motorcycle for the first time. Needless to say, it was a risk that ultimately made me really confident. I felt like I was different from the masses in a way, and that made me feel like I was the man.

In response to that, I picked up a total of

-2 strippers' numbers in one night, as well as a free lap dance
-a gorgeous blonde girl
-2 other random girls

in a month. I made approaches like they weren't sh*t. I had reached a new level of the quality of girls I was dating. I had approached not just hot chicks, but the HOTTEST of the chicks out there flawlessly and gotten their numbers.

Add to that I'm a poor 19 yo college student in a small studio, it wasn't half bad.

But then there's times like the present. My bike is down (not running), I'm having money issues, and I don't feel like I have anything that is helping me to DIFFERENTIATE myself from the masses and make me that "man" I strive to be.

Not to say I don't make approaches and am not confident. I just don't feel as mighty as I use to.

So the question is...what to do in situations like this? Life is a big ride where you're on top one minute, and on the bottom the next, and to be honest, I like it.

But, when you are in the troughs, what kind of mindset should you have? How can you still feel ULTRA confident when you don't have things to make you ULTRA confident.

Sure, you may naturally be a ballsy motherf*cker, but if you're in the situation that your ballsy attitude can't shine, how is anyone (meaning chicks) suppose to realize it?

 

[Ace of Flames]

No object can substitue for REAL confidence in yourself. It may perk you up for awhile, but the fact is, its temporary. Relying on that temporary boost will screw you over in the end, which you can obviously agree with.

All I can tell you is to build up some real confidence. In the meantime, fix your bike when you get the money.

 

[pooparu]

I don't think he's saying he's having NO confidence, what he's saying is that when everything seems to **** up, how do you still maintain that upbeat side.

Working out relieves stress man. Also if you really like you're own looks, you'll still feel badass, but I know what you mean man. when I'm in a suit and **** I feel just ****ing tough, girls look at me and wonder why I'm dressed so professionally (16 man), guys somehow seem to be in awe of my power (which is kind of weird actually), and I walk with more swagger (well I walk with a swagger anyway, my mom even told me that lol), so what I think both of us need to do, is to realize that we are badass either way (because we are bro) and love it. I feel great dressed normally, but I feel ****ing incredible dressed in a suit, so let's start FEELING ****ing incredible when we aren't. its a choice man, that's what you've gotta realize, its all a choice.

 

[WORKEROUTER]

Of course I'm still confident.

But you get use to feeling like a total BADASS and pimp when you're doing things that make you feel that way.

It's just deception if you fake it.

 

[speed dawg]

this is interesting. i know what you mean, little nicks in the road that can eat at your confidence. you just have to try your best to stay away from
sh1t that might bring you down. don't let the negative consume you. a poster replied to a thread i started today and said "acknowledge, then let go". it applies to many situations. you just have to keep on doing what you're doing and bettering yourself.....