"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
How to Lose the (undeserved) Nerd Label
- Thread starter Exniceguy
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"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
But we have hope for you yet.
1. Grades are still the only reason your at school. I would gladly be labelled a 'nerd' if i couldnt be cool and have good grades at the same time, luckily you can.
2. Change your image. Get a gym membership and get massive. Get contacts. Buy normal clothes. People often get labelled a nerd only because they look like one.
3. Start talking to people about *****, parties, funny stories, etc. Normal things.
4. And finally, reinforcing number 1. I'd rather be a nerd with good grades rather then a dumb fukken jock who will be working at the local supermarket until his 34.
penkitten
Master Don Juan
Mr. Debonaire
Master Don Juan
TALK TO EVERYONE!!!!
STRUT LIKE A PEACOCK!!!! YOU OWN THAT SCHOOL
peace..
"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
It is just i can and am willing to change. I'm not physically bad looking i know that. But i just realized 3 minutes ago what i needed to change:
1) Be less shy (working on that)
2) Smile more
3) Walk with more confidence
4) Say hi loudly: talk louder altogether
5) Play some sports in school (well its actually too late im graduating)
6) Don't let everything go (e.g. fight back)
And Maybe
1) Lose the glasses
Maybe thats why. It wasn't i looked geeky but i just acted geeky. GUys arent attracted to you so basically its maybe all your behavior.
Do i still believe i deserve any labels Hell no. Do i care about labels tho. Hell, not anymore .
Any comments penkitten?
Alot of people THINK That in highschool, but its not true.
Are you saying money is the answer to life? Nerds often never get over their shyness. But i agree that it is the most important part of school.
High school is the foundation for the rest of your life, academically as well as socially.
TinyFzzyKiwi
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they'll never have anything if they rely on money to get them everything. Sure it can get them alot, anything material they would have access to, but what about non material things?Originally posted by redbyte
That was a fast turn around. Less than 1hr, and you've already realised what you need to change.
penkitten
Master Don Juan
no im not saying money is everything.
i am saying go watch romy and michelle's reunion.
"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
Kerensky
Master Don Juan
Anyhow, people with money are usually smart ok. There is no stupid chump rich guy. they're smart or famous and they worked to get there so stop acting like jealous fools and accept the fact that you need money and lots of it to be the king.
People who think happiness and stuff don't depend on money are in denial. Are you happy when your child cries about the toys his friends have but he can't have because he had to choose between that and a meal? I didn't think so.