Why "Whatever You Want" Keeps You Single
She says the movie looks dumb; you suddenly agree. She tests you with a little attitude; you apologize for nothing.
You think you're being easy to get along with. She reads something else entirely: a man with no edges. Nothing to hold on to. No friction, no tension, no reason to wonder what he really thinks.
The "22 Rules" taught me to push back — playfully, calmly, without needing her approval. Strange things happened after that.
How to Lose the (undeserved) Nerd Label
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"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
But we have hope for you yet.
1. Grades are still the only reason your at school. I would gladly be labelled a 'nerd' if i couldnt be cool and have good grades at the same time, luckily you can.
2. Change your image. Get a gym membership and get massive. Get contacts. Buy normal clothes. People often get labelled a nerd only because they look like one.
3. Start talking to people about *****, parties, funny stories, etc. Normal things.
4. And finally, reinforcing number 1. I'd rather be a nerd with good grades rather then a dumb fukken jock who will be working at the local supermarket until his 34.
penkitten
Master Don Juan
Mr. Debonaire
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TALK TO EVERYONE!!!!
STRUT LIKE A PEACOCK!!!! YOU OWN THAT SCHOOL
peace..
"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
It is just i can and am willing to change. I'm not physically bad looking i know that. But i just realized 3 minutes ago what i needed to change:
1) Be less shy (working on that)
2) Smile more
3) Walk with more confidence
4) Say hi loudly: talk louder altogether
5) Play some sports in school (well its actually too late im graduating)
6) Don't let everything go (e.g. fight back)
And Maybe
1) Lose the glasses
Maybe thats why. It wasn't i looked geeky but i just acted geeky. GUys arent attracted to you so basically its maybe all your behavior.
Do i still believe i deserve any labels Hell no. Do i care about labels tho. Hell, not anymore .
Any comments penkitten?
Alot of people THINK That in highschool, but its not true.
Are you saying money is the answer to life? Nerds often never get over their shyness. But i agree that it is the most important part of school.
High school is the foundation for the rest of your life, academically as well as socially.
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they'll never have anything if they rely on money to get them everything. Sure it can get them alot, anything material they would have access to, but what about non material things?Originally posted by redbyte
That was a fast turn around. Less than 1hr, and you've already realised what you need to change.
penkitten
Master Don Juan
no im not saying money is everything.
i am saying go watch romy and michelle's reunion.
"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
Kerensky
Master Don Juan
Anyhow, people with money are usually smart ok. There is no stupid chump rich guy. they're smart or famous and they worked to get there so stop acting like jealous fools and accept the fact that you need money and lots of it to be the king.
People who think happiness and stuff don't depend on money are in denial. Are you happy when your child cries about the toys his friends have but he can't have because he had to choose between that and a meal? I didn't think so.