"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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How to knock the pedastal from under girls?

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No excuses, I know I blame myself as I was always the one initiating everything with girls from friends to those I'm keen on. Since being on this site, I've treated girls I've met differently and it's such a vast difference. They are the ones who initiate now and it's always give and take and not a 1 way street.

But back to my question, so how do I knock the pedastal from under the girls I already know? I've had enough of being the one initiating everything and be it the girls who are just friends to the girls I'm keen on...

Funny thing is once we've caught up, these girls initiate everything from kino to what we are doing. I've just had enough of being the person who has to get the ball rolling.
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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You are the one that puts them on the pedestal. It's all in your head.

So, if you want to take them off it, look at them in a different way. See them as humans with flaws, rather than goddesses.

Secondly, treat them differently. Stop being available for them 24/7 etc.

If you think of them differently and treat them differently, then the pedestal will vanish.
 
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JonJaper said:
You are the one that puts them on the pedestal. It's all in your head.

So, if you want to take them off it, look at them in a different way. See them as humans with flaws, rather than goddesses.

Secondly, treat them differently. Stop being available for them 24/7 etc.

If you think of them differently and treat them differently, then the pedestal will vanish.
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Have you ever slept with a female that wasn't a prostitute?
 
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PrettyBoyAJ said:
Have you ever slept with a female that wasn't a prostitute?
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LOL not yet...I'm self-improving first.

Why is that relevant to this topic about pedestals? Or are you just trying to start a flamewar that isn't gonna happen haha.
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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JonJaper said:
LOL not yet...I'm self-improving first.

Why is that relevant? Or are you trying to start a flamewar that isn't gonna happen haha.
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Japer was going to say "your mother" but held his peace.
 
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corrector said:
Japer was going to say "your mother" but held his peace.
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I wasn't gonna say that because he asked about a woman who isn't a prostitute LOL j/k.

See PrettyBoyAJ, I can take the low road too.
 
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"How to knock the pedastal from under girls?"

You do that by placing yourself on the pedestal instead.
 
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Because I just recently read your thread in your signature. Was wondering how the progress was coming along.

To answer the OP question: Don't put one on a pedestal in the first place. You should always be looking for a better girl.
 
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PrettyBoyAJ said:
Because I just recently read your thread in your signature. Was wondering how the progress was coming along.

To answer the OP question: Don't put one on a pedestal in the first place. You should always be looking for a better girl.
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LOL ok I thought you were just trolling.

I'm still working on my inner game and hitting the gym, focusing on other areas of my life (studies etc) instead of women, because I know that if I improve other areas of my life, the women will come naturally.

It's only been a month and a 1/2 since my trip to Amsterdam, so if I turned around and said that since then, I've read all the DJBible, book of Pook etc, got muscular and ripped, done hundreds of approaches, number closed, f-closed, changed my inner game/mindset, become a whole new person and a DJ already... that would obviously be BS.
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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PrettyBoyAJ said:
Have you ever slept with a female that wasn't a prostitute?
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HAHAHAHAHAHAHAAHH!!!:wave:

WHERE THE F$CK DID THAT ONE COME FROM???

HAHAHAHAHA
 
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As long as you're labeling some girls as "hot girls" you will treat them differently. Look at every girl the same way until it becomes part of who you are, and only then will you treat the girls you already know the same as every other person.
 
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Yes. Now you go and deal with your issues, you big baby.
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AlexDP, I'm sorry that it's so rare for you to have sex with attractive women that you harbor long term resentment for those who do (my last date being the 6th most attractive of my life, IMO), letting it spill over into Off Topic issues like this. Why don't you grow up and get over it? I seriously think your BPD chick did long term damage.

PS - I was quoting Matthew Fitzgerald in Sexploytation regarding the average American woman being a wh0re.
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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