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How to keep women in a holding pattern without losing the opportunity to meet?

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Ok, here is something I am really struggling with. Getting so many numbers online that I don't have time to meet up with them all.

I have found that with my current method I only have about a week to 10 days to get them out or basically my chance evaporates and they assume I'm not interested. Probably because I typically only text to find availability or set up dates.

Now in situations where my schedule is booked or our schedules don't mesh temporarily, do I need to keep in some type of contact every couple days with just a few BS texts to ensure they haven't decided I'm not interested?

Just seems like my current method leads to either quick meetups or no meetup. Need to refine it so even if we can't meet for a few weeks she would still be willing to do so without me coming off as looking like I'm not interested by going a week or more from initial contact.
Maybe an assurance of "I'd really like to meet up with you but our schedules just aren't meshing this week, maybe next week sometime"?

Any tips for those with experience with this.
 

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Tough question there. You could try flaking like they do. Setup some meetings, then apologize when you can't make it. That would buy you a time or two, especially if you can show them a good time when you do go out.

Perhaps you go out with them initially right away, show them a good time, be interesting, engaging and funny. If you can close with them right away, they should be chasing you for a bit. Then you can put them off and chase other plates.
 
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highSpeed said:
Tough question there. You could try flaking like they do. Setup some meetings, then apologize when you can't make it. That would buy you a time or two, especially if you can show them a good time when you do go out.

Perhaps you go out with them initially right away, show them a good time, be interesting, engaging and funny. If you can close with them right away, they should be chasing you for a bit. Then you can put them off and chase other plates.
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That's the issue tho...I don't have time to go out with them. With my schedule I only really have time for 2-3 meetups a week, and I already have 3-4 plates I am banging so I might only be meeting a new woman once a week...

I'm not playing the flake game...

And I can't show them a good time because I don't have time to meet them, nor bang them on a date...

The issue is I have too much going on as it is and need to be able to converse with them in a way so they will be cool waiting a few weeks to meet without thinking I'm not interested and not wanting to meet
 
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How is it dude's asking the same dumb questions 5 times a day get 20+ replies quickly but a legitimate question like this that I have not seen asked or talked about previously has next to none? Somebody has to have some advice for this...please, anyone?
 

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For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

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