"The Kiss of Death Mistake"

You replay the conversation at 2 a.m. She texted back fast yesterday. Today, nothing. Was that smile friendly or flirty? What did the shoulder touch mean?

Every hour you spend decoding her signals drains your confidence and hands her the controls. Women can sense that insecurity from across the room — and it repels them.

One of the "22 Rules" kills the obsession on the spot: assume she likes you, and act accordingly. Sounds too simple. Works anyway.

Her interest tends to rise to meet your expectations. Psychologists call it a self-fulfilling prophecy.

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How to keep women from getting too attached??

SoCalMike

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I have a major problem with women getting too attached to me.

Occasionally I will meet a girl who I'd like to just bone, and not much more. But if I say that, they usually get upset and it hurts my chances.

On the other hand, if I don't say ANYTHING, and we bone, next thing I know she wants a ring.

Part of the reason is I have a good job, the other part is I come off as a "nice guy", the kind of guy a girl would like to settle down with. Once they learn I'm good in bed, it seals the deal and they want me for LTR/marriage.

It bugs me that there are other guys I know who are basically just scumbags, but they get laid without attachments CONSTANTLY and the women seem to just accept that these guys are dildos and nothing more. They don't really get angry or upset like they do with me if I just want sex.

How should I change my behavior to prevent women from ALWAYS looking at me as marriage/LTR material?

Any advice would be appreciated.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Andy_Dufresne

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Don't date her more than once per week.

Don't bring up the subject of relationship unless she does.

Spin a couple of plates.

This should solve the problem. Actions speak louder than words.
 

Warrior74

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I agree. Spend less time with them. Don't hang out for hanging outs sake.
 

DJDamage

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SoCalMike said:
How should I change my behavior to prevent women from ALWAYS looking at me as marriage/LTR material?
You can't.

You created this high interest in women, that is why they get attached.

Just be true to yourself and if those women can't understand why you don't want to be exclusive then NEXT them.
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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