"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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How to keep women from getting too attached??

SoCalMike

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I have a major problem with women getting too attached to me.

Occasionally I will meet a girl who I'd like to just bone, and not much more. But if I say that, they usually get upset and it hurts my chances.

On the other hand, if I don't say ANYTHING, and we bone, next thing I know she wants a ring.

Part of the reason is I have a good job, the other part is I come off as a "nice guy", the kind of guy a girl would like to settle down with. Once they learn I'm good in bed, it seals the deal and they want me for LTR/marriage.

It bugs me that there are other guys I know who are basically just scumbags, but they get laid without attachments CONSTANTLY and the women seem to just accept that these guys are dildos and nothing more. They don't really get angry or upset like they do with me if I just want sex.

How should I change my behavior to prevent women from ALWAYS looking at me as marriage/LTR material?

Any advice would be appreciated.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Andy_Dufresne

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Don't date her more than once per week.

Don't bring up the subject of relationship unless she does.

Spin a couple of plates.

This should solve the problem. Actions speak louder than words.
 

Warrior74

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I agree. Spend less time with them. Don't hang out for hanging outs sake.
 

DJDamage

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SoCalMike said:
How should I change my behavior to prevent women from ALWAYS looking at me as marriage/LTR material?
You can't.

You created this high interest in women, that is why they get attached.

Just be true to yourself and if those women can't understand why you don't want to be exclusive then NEXT them.
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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