so, I've been seeing this girl for a while now. I'm 25 and I've known her since high school. I've always known she had a thing for me but honestly I wasn't that attracted to her. About a year ago we started dating. At first I just wanted sex, but now I'm really starting to care about her. The problem is she has pretty much been begging to be my girlfriend for months and I wouldn't do it. Then she started to do a fade away on me. she stood me up a couple of times, always had a good excuse, but I knew what was going on. I got really mad and cussed her out. Then she promised she would come see me and was all like i cant wait to see you and all that for a week. The day she is supposed to come over she says its her friends birthday and she wants to stop by her party before she comes. Ok no problem. Then she stands me up again won't answer the phone and I send her a message cussing her out again, No response. So I send her another message finally broke down and txt her I was falling for her about 3-4am. She txts me in morning all upset says she got drunk at the party and slept with someone else, but she begs me for another chance. It hurt pretty bad, but she's been at my house everyday she could since then doing whatever I ask to try and make it up to me. I can't be with her forever she just isn't attractive enough plus she cant have kids and i want them one day. Also i'm not sure i could ever trust her now. But, i do really care a lot about her plus she's the only one banging me on the regular. There have been some 1 night stands and banged a couple hookers during this whole time but no one else i really cared about or had rapport with. The Question is is there a way for me to keep this going for a while longer without both of us getting really hurt, or should i just break it off now before that happens?
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Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.
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how to keep the plate spinning
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"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
looks like its your only plate, dude one thing I find more easy about the spin plates is if you lose a plate, get a new one, you shouldn't care if she is going ghost on you now because you should have other plates and wouldn't care
Thats not really the issue. I know i need to spin more plates i always need to spin more plates, and im working on 2-3 prospects. The question is can i keep spinning this one until i get some better options without feeling like a total douche. I know she wants to get serious but i dont. But i dont wanna give up my steady peice until ive got some more lined up. I could just lie about it, but i dont wanna do that, its not right. Any suggestions on how to do it without lieing to her?
VladPatton
Master Don Juan
Keep banging her until your situation improves with more girls. You don't need to get into specifics with her. If she presses for a relationship you are not willing to enter, you walk. Plain and simple. As an eye opener: she's probably banging others on the side as well. She has no problems doing guys on-the-fly, as her party sexcapade demonstrated.
Stop caring too much, limit your information sharing, and walk when you are satiated with her. It's about all you can do.
Stop caring too much, limit your information sharing, and walk when you are satiated with her. It's about all you can do.
Ya your right man thx. I guess i already knew that i just wanted to hear it from somone else. Oh and i was never expecting her to be exclusive with me just honest about it. What bothered me was her swaering up and down she was coming to see me then going and banging somone else, but im over it now. Just trying to figure out where to go from here.
Need to get out and meet more girls i live in a big college town, and there are more hb10s running around than you can shake a stick at. Im gonna bag one and get her pregnant just for good genes even if it doesnt work out for an ltr. Been thinking about taking some classes in the evenings not only to meet girls but to further my education as well.
Need to get out and meet more girls i live in a big college town, and there are more hb10s running around than you can shake a stick at. Im gonna bag one and get her pregnant just for good genes even if it doesnt work out for an ltr. Been thinking about taking some classes in the evenings not only to meet girls but to further my education as well.
"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.