"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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How to keep going?

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So over the summer I ****ed up on a girl that I found extremely attractive, she also doesnt have a ****ing dweeb personality (we went to highschool together). She was drunk and we were in a room. Alone. Together. I sat in my chair and did nothing as I laughed at her "pretending" to look for alcohol someone hid in the room (an excuse to get her ass close to my face). Anyways I would go on to party with her 3 more times that summer and fail to hook up with her (we were both drunk) but when we were sober she always got really excited around me and would hold eye contact forever, look at me after everything she said you know, the usual.

Now that school started i go to a college 1 hour away from her. I decided to go absolute 0 contact on her and just completely next her as a girl until yesterday I recieve a text dialogue that plays out like this:

"Hi Will"
Me: "Hey whats hangin?"
"Oh just missing you (kiss face emoji)"
Me: "I miss u 2 naamsayin girl?"
"How are classes going?"
Me: "They're great just a ****ty workload"
"Ya but it's fun to learn here. Ja feel?"
Me: "Ja carly I feel. What's your major?"
"Neuroscience but i'm changing it, how about you?"
Me: "Psychology"
"Damn boo"
"Boi"
"Lol"
Me: "Lol Carl u a nutttt"
"Thank you"
-5 hours and 20 shots later-
Me: "Heyy me and some guys from ____ are coming to ___
do you wanna meet up? I might have to crash at your dorm too haha"
"Uh Duh?"

What now
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Bokanovsky

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You: "Y dont u com ova here n sit on my c0ck naamsayin grl ja feel?"
 

SgtSplacker

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Get her alone...

Wait for a moment of silence...

Go for the kiss.
 

Harry Wilmington

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Uh, duh!! She reached out to you and automatically accepted your invitation to come over to her dorm last minute. If you haven't banged her already I have no idea what you're waiting for...
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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