Master Don Juan
- Apr 25, 2016
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#1 I am not LOOKING for a relationship. I am managing a rotation. There is an enormous different to intent and structure of how I operate.Like some others, I have some issues with this. A girl like this is not a good prospect for a LTR. If they lose interest in you because you acknowledge them as a girlfriend, wife, or whatever... That is as big a red flag as you can get. If they're like that, I would rather find out sooner rather than later. You need to find someone who is on the more stable side of the spectrum.
At some point in a relationship, you have to stop running. Otherwise, there is no relationship.
In order for me to ditch a perfectly good rotation (which I would possibly do) one chick would have to be an absolute unicorn. I am smart enough to give thought to such a thing if the chick just had the right personality, motivation, career, social skills, etc.
I will say that most women in my rotation fit MOST of my desires but what they lack is glaring to me. So that is why I spin them as plates instead of pursuing a relationship. My standards are high and I do NOT need a relationship to be happy.
Men enter a relationship for 2 reasons:
1.) They FINALLY find someone interested in their unhappy @ss and they feel the need to latch on to that chick due to a scarcity mindset.
2.) They find a chick who is worth (to them) to move forward with and eliminate the conversations, dates, hooking up, etc with the other women.
I am not saying there is a right thing to do or a wrong thing to do. It is about preference on what the man wants and clearly is defined (or should be) on what the woman offers.
I am not going to walk past a $100 bill to pick up a $5. Dating is the same way. There are very very few people in this world that offer what we are looking for as a whole to be able to move into a successful relationship with. Yet there are many that offer bits and pieces of what we are looking for and should be treated as such (pump and dumps, FWB, friend zone them, etc).
Yet one thing that is consistent with anything that you do is that it should always benefit YOU and you should always be putting yourself and your needs first in this game of dating.