How to invite her over to my place for our second date

[HankHill]

So I posted about this girl#3 here: https://www.sosuave.net/forum/threads/dating-questions-and-my-recent-experiences.249949/

I last asked her "I'd love to see you again before you leave [for her trip]. Are you free Mon or Tue after work?" Within 5 mins she texted back "how about Tue?"

But now...to invite her to my place should I just come right out and say it 'Great! Are you ok with coming over and cooking dinner together, we can watch a movie on Netflix and if you ask nicely I might even play a song or two on the guitar for you '

What if she says 'let's meet somewhere else or at xyz this time'?

Or don't invite her over and suggest some place else?

 

[Billtx49]

Focus on upbeat statements, not questions…
Along the lines of : I think this would be a great thing to do, are you in for it?, etc. Then get her response.

 

[HankHill]

So something like: "Great. Let's make dinner together and watch a movie on Netflix" ?

And two, do you think second date is too early to invite her to my place (in the past that was always date#3).

 

[Billtx49]

So something like: "Great. Let's make dinner together and watch a movie on Netflix" ?

And two, do you think second date is too early to invite her to my place (in the past that was always date#3).

Yes

Your choice, if you don’t try you never know… Take a shot and see, if she resists, have a plan B in mind to go to.

 

[EyeBRollin]

Nah. Don’t invite her offer directly. You are taking her out somewhere near her residence or yours. Do well on the date and the two of you will end up inside. Do not explicitly ask. It has a high risk of failure, as her anti-slut radar may go off.

Think of the logistics, find a place less than 5 minutes away. If there is any escalation, you will end up inside together because of the convenience.

 

[HankHill]

Too late now...I invited her over but just as I hit send I got a txt from her "heading to bed early, talk to you tomorrow!"

So we shall see...if she suggests an alternative then that's what it'll have to be.

 

[HankHill]

"Hmm not sure I'm comfortable coming to you house yet. Nor do I think I can stay awake through a movie "

^her response.
Should I tell her something like:
"No worries...I was shooting for a light activity to do together as opposed to just meeting over drinks/dinner but I can understand your point of view. I forget we've only met once even if we've been chatting much longer ok how about xyz for dinner?"

 

[Billtx49]

"Hmm not sure I'm comfortable coming to you house yet. Nor do I think I can stay awake through a movie "

^her response.
Should I tell her something like:
"No worries...I was shooting for a light activity to do together as opposed to just meeting over drinks/dinner but I can understand your point of view. I forget we've only met once even if we've been chatting much longer ok how about xyz for dinner?"

If she likes you, she should bite on the free dinner setup…
If she accepts, take her some place she’s never been to before.

 

[HankHill]

I'm pretty sure she'll bite but I feel dumb now lol my ego is hurt but I think she lessened the blow by using the word 'yet' and the lol emoji.
How do I play it cool in my response?

 

[HankHill]

Where do all the resident experts go when you need advice? Lol

 

[lizardking82]

Now you got yourself in a position where you can't invite her over at your place before at least this date and another one goes along. Make sure to escalate sexually in both dates, meaning if you just kissed and touched until now, kiss and touch + tease her boobs and her ass; next date, go further. If you are going further, that is all you need to know that things are going alright = towards sex.

Report on how the second date went and I'll take it from there on what you could do.

 

[HankHill]

Here's what I'm going to send her soon... don't want to wait too long she'll think Im butt hurt. Tell me if I should change the wording to something else:

No worries. The idea was to do something easy yet interactive like making dinner together as opposed to say bowling since it's the middle of the week, and something more fun than just another conversation over drinks/dinner. But I forget even if we've been texting for a while we've only met once so I can see where you're coming from...I could be out on parole for all you know
How about [restaurant] at 7p?

 

[resilient]

That's a weird message Hank... never write a wall of text in text convo. Make it simple. Be direct. She either accepts the offer or rejects it. Don't backpeddle. They can sense and can't stand weakness. You're busy and have things to do.

 

[lizardking82]

Here's what I'm going to send her soon... don't want to wait too long she'll think Im butt hurt. Tell me if I should change the wording to something else:

No worries. The idea was to do something easy yet interactive like making dinner together as opposed to say bowling since it's the middle of the week, and something more fun than just another conversation over drinks/dinner. But I forget even if we've been texting for a while we've only met once so I can see where you're coming from...I could be out on parole for all you know

Don't do that. Agree on the second date, go out and show no biterness, take physical approach further compared to first date and report back here on it. You came looking for advice, we are giving it to you. Then don't come back like a little b1tch saying "oops, I didn;t listen to you guys, it went bad".

 

[HankHill]

Crap...I didn't cut and paste the last sentence above:

How about [restaurant] at 7p?

I have listened so far...but I'm not getting what I should say to come off as "direct" etc after her last txt. Example??

 

[lizardking82]

Crap...I didn't cut and paste the last sentence above:

How about [restaurant] at 7p?

I have listened so far...but I'm not getting what I should say to come off as "direct" etc after her last txt. Example??

"In fact, I think we would fall asleep right somewhere between the 52nd and the 58th minute, so you're right, we better avoid that kind of tragedy and head out to XX place at XX hour "

 

[devilkingx2]

Here's what I'm going to send her soon... don't want to wait too long she'll think Im butt hurt. Tell me if I should change the wording to something else:

No worries. The idea was to do something easy yet interactive like making dinner together as opposed to say bowling since it's the middle of the week, and something more fun than just another conversation over drinks/dinner. But I forget even if we've been texting for a while we've only met once so I can see where you're coming from...I could be out on parole for all you know
How about [restaurant] at 7p?

Completely change the subject, talk about something else for a bit, then segway into another date invite tomorrow or something like that

 

[HankHill]

Completely change the subject, talk about something else for a bit, then segway into another date invite tomorrow or something like that

I kind of like the idea, let her wonder but don't go quiet. I'm actually out at a fair with my kid... thinking I should send a pic and say "if you get a chance to do this, I recommend it."

 

[HankHill]

"In fact, I think we would fall asleep right somewhere between the 52nd and the 58th minute, so you're right, we better avoid that kind of tragedy and head out to XX place at XX hour "

I like this too... thanks
"I agree... wouldn't want us to fall asleep on our second date so let's avoid that tragedy and meet xx at 7p "

 

[TheGambino]

Call her, have a fun chit chat, keep it light and fun. Make plans for a day, location and time. Look sharp and clean, let her talk 80% by asking fun questions and touch her a lot! Flirt and tease then at the point where she is laughing and you Guys goof around suggest to do more drinks at your place. The rest is history...