I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.
Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers. Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.
I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.
I think thats a great way....I need to try that when shopping...maybe ask them an opinion.Sam Adams said:I usually ask them a question about a product to open and then make fun of their answer and take it from there.
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
You have to remember that they are there to make a buck, not to get hit on by guys.WahidS said:How do you guys game on the girl that works the stands in the middle with their product
Or the girl at starbucks
Or the hot dog on a stick cashier?
Also what about the girls at the retail store; Anchor Blue, Macys, Nordstrom etc
brett012 said:what do you mean by "make fun of their answer"? example?
You would be surprised how easy it is. I mean good looking girls are always hired at places like Abercrombie and stuff because of their superior product knowledge. I once easily got this girl's number at abercrombie just by asking her the difference of the different style of jeans. She said she didn't know so it was easy to make fun of her. "What do you mean you don't know, don't you work here, where do I apply? I guess if your qualified I am."brett012 said:what do you mean by "make fun of their answer"? example?
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.