Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
I think thats a great way....I need to try that when shopping...maybe ask them an opinion.Sam Adams said:I usually ask them a question about a product to open and then make fun of their answer and take it from there.
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.
You have to remember that they are there to make a buck, not to get hit on by guys.WahidS said:How do you guys game on the girl that works the stands in the middle with their product
Or the girl at starbucks
Or the hot dog on a stick cashier?
Also what about the girls at the retail store; Anchor Blue, Macys, Nordstrom etc
brett012 said:what do you mean by "make fun of their answer"? example?
You would be surprised how easy it is. I mean good looking girls are always hired at places like Abercrombie and stuff because of their superior product knowledge. I once easily got this girl's number at abercrombie just by asking her the difference of the different style of jeans. She said she didn't know so it was easy to make fun of her. "What do you mean you don't know, don't you work here, where do I apply? I guess if your qualified I am."brett012 said:what do you mean by "make fun of their answer"? example?
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.