"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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How to have TOTAL CONTROL of your girlfriend

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This will be part 1 of my long series of posts on how to have control over everything when it comes to women/girls

I will not post long winded posts, no one needs nor wants to read those, and when guys who need help dont read, they will miss the golden advice

TOTAL CONTROL OVER YOUR GIRLFRIEND/RELATIONSHIP

This goes out to all the guys who come here asking and complaining about the women they date, I see tons of them, and mostly, everything has to do with DISRESPECT that your girlfriends have for you........here is how you make sure that your woman does NOT disrespect you, and how you can absolutely totally mentally and emotionally control her, its very simple:

1) make sure she knows how awesome and amazing you are when you and her are having a good time together, always have your game ON

2) when you feel the slightest disrespect, DO A COMPLETE 180 and go apeshyt on her and destroy her (verbally) for whatever little thing she did wrong........this WILL re-inforce in her mind that she needs to behave, because after all, she really wants to see the amazing side of you, not the p1ssed off side of you.........show her how bad you can get, and she wont ever act in a way that will bring that side out

3) give her amazing sex, make her cvm, and make sure to talk sweet/dirty to her while you are inside her (easy lol)

4) give her freedom to do whatever she does.......friends, mall, clubs, whatever, and make sure YOU are out doing the same shyt aka sports, gym, friends, parties

5) have other girls you are seeing.......this will prevent you from forming Oneitis, and trust me guys, when Oneitis forms, it will take over your soul and you wont even be able to give her #1 thru #4............its ok to see as many girls as you want until you are married


that is pretty much it, I hope you guys can learn from this, I am here to help
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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Total, I liked your analysis of the LS fiasco. I also think this is a great post and a very important one, especially for the guys in LTR's. Now I think its probably too late for guys currently in LTR's but this is something all the guys around here should keep in mind for their future LTR's.

Now you said earlier you were a lurker, you seem to knowledgeable to be a lurker, I'm thinking your someone reincarnated or from another venue (not LS).
 

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Total Control said:
2) when you feel the slightest disrespect, DO A COMPLETE 180 and go apeshyt on her and destroy her (verbally) for whatever little thing she did wrong........this WILL re-inforce in her mind that she needs to behave, because after all, she really wants to see the amazing side of you, not the p1ssed off side of you.........show her how bad you can get, and she wont ever act in a way that will bring that side out
Sounds more like tips to become a white-trash abusive husband. You can put your foot down when you need to - don't get me wrong - but going over-the-top ape**** helps nobody
 

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MacAvoy said:
Total, I liked your analysis of the LS fiasco. I also think this is a great post and a very important one, especially for the guys in LTR's. Now I think its probably too late for guys currently in LTR's but this is something all the guys around here should keep in mind for their future LTR's.

Now you said earlier you were a lurker, you seem to knowledgeable to be a lurker, I'm thinking your someone reincarnated or from another venue (not LS).

lurker doesnt mean inexperienced does it? lol

I should point out, i am NOT keyboard jockeying, because in the last 3 years, I have had around 10 girls falls in love with me based on acting how i described above......most of the ended when I got bored, not when they did

I just honestly hate seeing thread after thread of guys who have a gf who disrespect them in any way......you gotta play the game with these kinda girls, this isnt the 1950's anymore!!!
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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MCristo said:
Sounds more like tips to become a white-trash abusive husband. You can put your foot down when you need to - don't get me wrong - but going over-the-top ape**** helps nobody
I agreeing with this as far as number 2.

What happens when your "totally controlled" girlfriend finds out about number 5? My guess is curbville. There are more productive ways to conquer oneitis.
 

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Commando - your gfs are never supposed to find out about each other

Cristo - when a man shows a woman who is boss, verbally, she will get the hint and never disrespect the man........or do you prefer for men to be disrespected in relationships?

by the way, are Commando and Cristo both Loveshack women???
 

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i wish people would stop trying to control other people.
would you rather be with someone that you must control (just so they will be with you and act however you wish ) OR would you rather be with someone that can't get enough of you and treats you respectfully totally by their own actions?
 

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awesome, but #2 kinda reminded me of the discussion in class today about Domestic Violence on a psychological level. The example given in class was an actual guy who would take a pair of his wife's shoes and put them in his trunk everytime he left the house. So he eventually must've stored them all because she would never dare leave the house barefooted and he didn't want her going out to begin with..NUTS.
 

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Penkitten - its not about controlling the person, its about controlling THE RELATIONSHIP, when the man has control of the relationship, everything is fine........and when a woman has control of the relationship, you will notice that guys will start posting on sosauve how their wife got drunk and stayed out till 5am, or went to talk to someone on the phone into the bathroom, or did this or did that, im sure you have seen all the threads..............you cannot make women respect you by being the nice guy, this is not the 50's

BMX - you are using some extreme example, its irrelevant........i did not condone physical violence, i only condoned putting a girl in her place verbally
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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Total Control said:
Penkitten - its not about controlling the person, its about controlling THE RELATIONSHIP, when the man has control of the relationship, everything is fine........and when a woman has control of the relationship, you will notice that guys will start posting on sosauve how their wife got drunk and stayed out till 5am, or went to talk to someone on the phone into the bathroom, or did this or did that, im sure you have seen all the threads..............you cannot make women respect you by being the nice guy, this is not the 50's
dude, i never say it was 1950:)
 

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and I did say on a psychological level :) He was controlling her mentally. I do agree with you, physical violence is always a NO. Pce.
 

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I'm not to sure about number 2. As a matter of fact not to long ago that tactic backfired for me. Long story short my niece got extremly sick over a weekend. (near death) I needed her support and she wasnt there for me saturday night. The next morning I told her I wanted nothing to do with her. She called and texted me repeatedly that morning and day. By then though my blood was so boiled that her calls only made things worse. she then resorted to leaving rude messages. After that I said the meanest things a human being could say to anybody. I felt bad after that because i had taken it to far. So boom now i'm the bad guy that was trying to apologize for a week with no response. I haven't talked to her in weeks. In the end maybe firing back at a girl is the same as when she slaps you. you wouldn't hit her vback would you? I'm thinking maybe there is such thing as violent words as well. Anyways what do you guys think about all that?
 

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I think people have different definitions on what a girlfriend is

One day I'd like to click on a girlfriend thread and read LTR advice from someone in an LTR that's lasted AT LEAST 2 years. So far all I read about are fvck buddies with an arbitrary girlfriend title. And the advice is usually the same - just run push-pull attraction game indefinately as if the relationship was nothing more than jumping through hoops for each other
 

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Silky, this isn't something your suppose to treat your niece with. However my problem is with everyone always focussing on the negative. Instead of seeing #2 as being controlling and abusive. See it for what it really is, or more importantly take whats valuable and useful from a post and don't keep dwelling on the negative.

The reason why I see this as a valuable post is because guys are CONSTANTLY coming on here telling us how their g/f's disrespected them. Its imperative that we be MEN and control the relationship. We've lost control with women, they've taken over.

Use your minds when you read gentlemen, not just your eyes.
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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MacAvoy said:
Silky, this isn't something your suppose to treat your niece with. However my problem is with everyone always focussing on the negative. Instead of seeing #2 as being controlling and abusive. See it for what it really is, or more importantly take whats valuable and useful from a post and don't keep dwelling on the negative.
OH NO! I made you misunderstand. I'm saying my niece got sick and I neeeded my girlfriend there for me lol yikes. anywyas wouldn't it be better to just punish her by walking away?
 

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One day I'd like to click on a girlfriend thread and read LTR advice from someone in an LTR that's lasted AT LEAST 2 years. So far all I read about are fvck buddies with an arbitrary girlfriend title. And the advice is usually the same - just run push-pull attraction game indefinately as if the relationship was nothing more than jumping through hoops for each other
Wow couldn't agree more...this is where I f*cked up. Push/pull over and over until one day I pushed too hard.
 

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Well usualy people don't come on here if things have been going smooth for two years. But yes its hard to judge when to push and pull and how hard.
 

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OH NO! I made you misunderstand. I'm saying my niece got sick and I neeeded my girlfriend there for me lol yikes. anywyas wouldn't it be better to just punish her by walking away?

Why would you want to punish your niece by walking away??
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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