"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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how to have friends outside of school

we all eat food

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i think this is my problem. So anyone got any ideas or any solutions, since i feel as if everyone who i wanna chill with has a life and **** like that. And stuff just doesnt happen. But whateverm im here to be positive not mope about it.
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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Im 16 also, Ill tell you exactly what to do to make friends........Ill start from scratch. Joke around with a guy in any of your classes, Im sure theres at least 1 guy you know pretty well in your classes, ask him where he chills at lunch...he'll tell you....you go and he most likely will have a group of friends, eat lunch with them, every day...slowly work your way in....pretty soon your one of them and they will make plans and youll be IN.
 

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Hah, ironic? 'we all eat food' doesn't have lunch.

But that's some good advice, find someone that you know a little bit. Joke around with them and whatnot, then after awhile they'll probably invite you hang out or whatever.
 
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I know a lot of people from other schools (more than from my own school probably). I usually meet them through activities that I do, like chinese school, jujitsu, etc. Also, you can meet them through your friends at school.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Do you invite them anywere?
 

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I'd say get a hobby. I am 100 % sure that there will be something out there that you're interested in and will enjoy doing. Go find that thing, try out everything if you need to. Then you''ll find people who enjoy the same thing and everything will work itself out. But remember, you have to be doing it because you're enjoying yourself while you do it, not do it because you want to make friends.
 

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It's really simple. You just approach a dude you think is cool and friendly and you
joke around with him. That's all there is to it. You're immediately friends. Invite him or her over to your place and have fun.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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lmao @ 'we all eat food' doesn't have lunch

but yeah just dont come off as desperate to make friends or wateva. be funny and joke around with one guy, and then make friends with all his friends. dont try too hard to make friends with em, juz chill
 

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Originally posted by we all eat food
well no one ever invites me anywhere
Originally posted by True Wolf
Do you invite them anywere?
ah the wolf is truely insightful.:woo:
 
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