"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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How to handle past rejections...

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OK so I've been rejected by two girls... these two girls are girls I will be seeing around as we all have mutual friends and go to a church hangout together. So Im curious, how do i handle these girls... Like when I first met them I was C/F, Kinoing and stuff(i mad ea good first impression but things with both of them just didn't work out, I screwed up, whatever) but once I got the not interested signals after i screwed up I naturally don't kino etc. and just honestly, don't talk to them. For example, I went to my friends house today and both girls were there... I said hi's and bye's to both and not muhc in between, so In there eyes am I being a ***** making them think they got the best of me? I just want to make sure that they think I don't give a **** that they don't want me in a sexual manner, and that if they change their mind thats fine. I just don't want to continue acting like I barely know them since I will be seeing them on a weekly basis in the future. I don't want to burn bridges, and don't want to be "Friends/Emotional Tampon".


BTW, One of the girls is hot and still single(though she is all over a guy who is a friend of mine) and the other one has a bf and I have no intention of ever getting with her(see the "Avoid Borderline Personality Disorder Chicks" thread.).

OK Thanks DJ's

Peace
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Don_Marko

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Dude, I see chicks like this ALL the time, especially now that I'm going back to school!
The advice which I'll tell you, I really feel strong abojut since it will work and it has been field tested before.

ACT LIKE IT DIDN'T HAPPEN

You hear me? There cannot and I repeat CANNOT be any awkwardness, if you introduce that into the interaction she will smell it from a mile away and will make her to feel awkward which will cause her to associate your company with displeasure.

Therefore go back to kino, C&F, rapport... whatever just be like it didn't happen and keep on going, if you isolate her and feel like she likes you by any means CLOSE her.

All that the rejection means is that you didn't game her hard or appropriate enough.
 

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WHY? Just why do you hang out at a church?

--iMat
 

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Originally posted by iMat
WHY? Just why do you hang out at a church?

--iMat
Hahaha... Besides my religious beleifs(thats a different topic for a different time) it is a good spot for social proof and meeting girls(if you've read my past threads, these two girls are girls I invited too and came). Im not extremly religious, but it gives me something to do for 2 hours on a weeknight when I would instead be studying or doing HW.


Thanks for the comment DOn Marko, it sounds like the "right" thing, but my AFC just comes back in me when I want to do that... gotta fix that.
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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