How to Handle Flakes

[BackInTheGame78]

You keep blowing up their phone after they flake on you and you look like a faggot creeper. Your choice.

I bang chicks every week. It's not hard. I move on from flakes in a hurry and if they come back around quickly I can determine whether or not to work them in.
I'm not saying be a **** to them but I have too much pride and too many options to text them days later and joke about how they stood me up.
This isn't The Notebook and they aren't Snow White. This is real life and my time is important.

No thanks

Dude, who is blowing up their phone? A single text after 3 or 4 days is considered blowing up their phone?

Please.

 

[Glassguy]

Dude, who is blowing up their phone? A single text after 3 or 4 days is considered blowing up their phone?

Please.

Let's say she bailed on your meet up. Whatever the excuse doesn't matter UNLESS she apologizes and counter offers with a specific time and place. It's low interest. Why would you want to contact her again? So she can do it again? Because that's what WILL happen. She's telling you NOT INTERESTED in a way most chicks do.....flaking.

SMH.....why would you keep pursuing? If you had other plates and options, you wouldn't.

 

[mrgoodstuff]

Dude, who is blowing up their phone? A single text after 3 or 4 days is considered blowing up their phone?

Please.

She flaked on you, let her communicate to you...

 

[BreezyB84]

So.... in my quest, I've been messing up on purpose...trying to learn what the b.s. is and what girls really say.. I've had 2 flakes on me this week and one girl stall on me this week so I decided to take different approaches with all of them..

Girl 1 who flaked on me: she was supposed to come over and didnt.... she texted me so I decided to tell her she was rude and I didnt want to talk to her no more . I have not heard from her since.

Girl two: she hit me up and was like "hey stranger." she flaked on me tuesday... I just ignored her...no answer..she sent two more text..I still haven't answered her.

Last girl...been out twice and now shes stalled me out..she will say yes she wants to chill but she never commits..so I decided i would respectfully call her out.. I told her politely I understand she's busy with work and if she honestly didn't want to hang out with me then she could be honest and I would not be mad and I'd never bother her again. this is what she sent me when she got the text.


Why don't women just say "no", I'm not interested . .I gave her the out... she should breathe a sigh of relief that I gave her the out.. please someone enlighten me please . .

 

[Konada]

Girl 1 and 3 move on...

Girl 2 is closeable. Go with "You have alot to make up for, NAME. When am I going to get that drink you owe me?"

And calling out on a girl's BS is always a nuclear option, however, most of the time people want to live in denial as the truth hurts them. Don't fret, I'd see calling one out and observing their reaction as a test of a person's character.

 

[BeTheChange]

If you are expecting every HB8 or HB9 to have immediate high interest, even if you yourself are on that level you're not living in the real world.

All this "she flaked once so I'm never going to speak to her again" is bravado and your ego talking. A guy with legit confidence who understands the game won't care. I've banged girls who flaked on me a month before. Circumstances change. There are so many reasons for why she flaked that could have NOTHING to do with you.

If a chick flakes on you, you shrug your shoulders and move on to the next one. Then you try again a week later, and make sure that your flake is now the insurance (or the insurance for your insurance if you're being ambitious!)

Here's my schedule for next week. All names have been changed.

Monday: Italiana (main), Sarah (insurance), ex gf (insurance), Julie (insurance)
Tuesday: Jamie (main), Leah (insurance), Angela (insurance)
Wednesday: [Salsa so don't really care if they don't turn up - essentially my hobby here is the main chick] Celia (insurance and a flaker), ex gf (insurance)
Thursday: [Salsa again] Charlotte (insurance)
Friday: Diane (main), Francis (insurance and a flaker)
Saturday: Rest day
Sunday: Tyra (main)

If you get a few flakes out of this you'd almost be relieved. Stack them. Before you know it you'll have multiple women posting on dating websites complaining about the guy who flaked on them rather than the other way round. Game is the game.

 

[bigneil]

Flake Prevention Formula

1) Plan dates at least 1 day in advance.
2) Never send date reminders.
3) If she doesn't contact you to ask "Are we still going tonight?" you go MIA.
4) Don't contact her first after the date - make her say thank you.
5) If she doesn't follow rules 3 and 4 you go no contact until she reaches out.
6) If she does reach out, never address the flake, simply plan another date.
7) If she flakes twice delete her.
8) When she does show up, make it a great date.

 

[bigneil]

Note: just prior to my scoring with my best girl ever I had a streak where a bunch of women would give me their number, make out with me, and then flake. So remember: more flakes are actually what starts to happen when you start to have more success, so don't panic when it happens (see my post High Cancellation Rate for more).

 

[BackInTheGame78]

Let's say she bailed on your meet up. Whatever the excuse doesn't matter UNLESS she apologizes and counter offers with a specific time and place. It's low interest. Why would you want to contact her again? So she can do it again? Because that's what WILL happen. She's telling you NOT INTERESTED in a way most chicks do.....flaking.

SMH.....why would you keep pursuing? If you had other plates and options, you wouldn't.

Yup so not interested they are fvcking me 2 weeks later, and have fvcked me multiple times since. The problem with most guys is they automatically assume the worst when a flake happens, when probably a good 50% of the time it's not the case.

I have plenty of options, but I actually enjoy this...it's kind of like my own little social experiment to see if what people keep posting blindly is actually true or if it's just one person taking some advice he read and then just reposting it, and so on and so on and so on down the list, until everyone has the same advice.

Flakes do not always mean she isn't interested, and if you handle them properly you can increase their interest and have it lead to fvcking her in short order...

And to the OP...calling a chick out on their flakes might make you feel good but it will never work in your favor, so don't bother doing it. The only method that I've found that works relatively well is the teasing them over it and then setting yourself up as a challenge

 

[wifehunter]

She's obviously got options, let her come to you. Back off.

I'm at the point that, if a girl is not chasing me, I'm not interested. Why waste your energy??? Most of us, have better things to do.

 

[BackInTheGame78]

She's obviously got options, let her come to you. Back off.

I'm at the point that, if a girl is not chasing me, I'm not interested. Why waste your energy??? Most of us, have better things to do.

Because it's your job as a man to make the first move...then let the women chase once you've got her hooked..usually after you've fvcked her...

You simply sound lazy and want the women to do all the work first, which is rarely going to happen.

 

[RangerMIke]

Stop giving attention to any woman that flakes on you. All women are the same... when you keep pursuing a gal that has flaked on you you screw up your mindset... sure sending them cute messages calling them "McFlakey" might work but it fvcks you up. Act like a man that has options and does no care about what any one girl might do and soon you will become that dude.

 

[BackInTheGame78]

Stop giving attention to any woman that flakes on you. All women are the same... when you keep pursuing a gal that has flaked on you you screw up your mindset... sure sending them cute messages calling them "McFlakey" might work but it fvcks you up. Act like a man that has options and does no care about what any one girl might do and soon you will become that dude.

It doesn't fvck me up at all. I don't need to act like I have options, I DO have options. But I also enjoy finding out things for myself that go against the normal advice...this would be one of those, although I can't take credit for it as I got it from Chateau Hartiste...

I don't care about her flaking at all. That isn't the point. The point is that a woman that flakes doesn't automatically mean she isn't interested. Uninterested women do not fvck you.

 

[RangerMIke]

I don't care about her flaking at all. That isn't the point. The point is that a woman that flakes doesn't automatically mean she isn't interested. Uninterested women do not fvck you.

I agree... but if she is really interested then she will reach out to you... you really don't have to do anything. Women love attention, that is your carrot. Only give women attention as a reward for behavior that you like. When she flakes and you give her attention, you are messing up your frame. Your frame should be give attention ONLY to women that deserve it.

You have to treat all women the same, because they are. One woman or another who the fvck cares. When a woman flakes it is either she doesn't like you enough to keep the date, or she is playing games. Either way why would I care when you have other women that when called she just comes over with nothing under her trench-coat.

 

[Glassguy]

It doesn't fvck me up at all. I don't need to act like I have options, I DO have options. But I also enjoy finding out things for myself that go against the normal advice...this would be one of those, although I can't take credit for it as I got it from Chateau Hartiste...

I don't care about her flaking at all. That isn't the point. The point is that a woman that flakes doesn't automatically mean she isn't interested. Uninterested women do not fvck you.

Women flaking is important. Contacting them afterward is rewarding bad behavior and looks like you are needy without other options.

 

[Glassguy]

Yup so not interested they are fvcking me 2 weeks later, and have fvcked me multiple times since. The problem with most guys is they automatically assume the worst when a flake happens, when probably a good 50% of the time it's not the case.

I have plenty of options, but I actually enjoy this...it's kind of like my own little social experiment to see if what people keep posting blindly is actually true or if it's just one person taking some advice he read and then just reposting it, and so on and so on and so on down the list, until everyone has the same advice.

Flakes do not always mean she isn't interested, and if you handle them properly you can increase their interest and have it lead to fvcking her in short order...

And to the OP...calling a chick out on their flakes might make you feel good but it will never work in your favor, so don't bother doing it. The only method that I've found that works relatively well is the teasing them over it and then setting yourself up as a challenge

Arent you the same dude that called out on the other post about middle eastern chicks, putting a bogus pic up on 3 chicks and then saying your friend had a 3 some with 2 of them when it turned out the pic was something that was copied and pasted?

 

[BackInTheGame78]

Arent you the same dude that called out on the other post about middle eastern chicks, putting a bogus pic up on 3 chicks and then saying your friend had a 3 some with 2 of them when it turned out the pic was something that was copied and pasted?

Ummm...no, not at all...I've never posted a pic on this site

 

[Trunks]

I've had great success lately doing the following:

When she flakes act cool and be like OK, no problem.

3-4 days later send her the following: "Hey Flakey McFlakester, had to give you -10 points for [Insert something relevant]. You're losing me. You've got ground to make up."

You tease her about the flake then basically let her know you don't like her actions in a playful manner while putting her in the chase position of "making up ground" so she doesn't "lose you".

This only works when the woman has "some" interest in you...you might have lost out etc...but it squarely puts you back on the map as a guy who knows how to handle himself properly in these situations which makes her start to wonder what other types of situations you can handle yourself properly in...if you get my drift. You will stand out from most guys who either get pissed off or beg...

I've gotten several dates out of this including 2 chicks I ended up banging and 2 others I'm moving in that direction with which would have never happened previouslyby going ghost.

There was an article at girlschase.com where the guy said, if the girl flakes, be nonchalant and if you decide to try again, just invite her to come over. Less work, weeds them out if they are not serious.