"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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How to handle chicks that approach you?

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I went to the club last night and had the hottest latina chick hit on me. hb9 or better. Beautiful t1ts, a$$, decent height and light complexion. I have girls hit on me on occasion but none this hot and most of them don't have the balls to come on that hard. She came up and tried to get me to dance and i politely declined since i'm not really a dancer and plus i was trying to keep the crazy drunk side of me controlled. She went and danced into my group and then slowly came up and backed into me. We grinded and then she got in close had me touching her ass, stomach, etc. but i don't like being hit on or have girls dictate the pace so i kept moving my hands away from obvious spots noticeable by my friends. She asked me my sign and name and i did the same. She also asked me basically if i was there with anyone and i said no.

Long story short, i ALWAYS out of habit brush of girls that hit on me but she was really hot and also aggressive. I was in the calm and collected/cool mood. Girls would grab my arms and try to make me dance but i politely smile and groove a little and step back and let my friends enjoy themselves while i chillback. How would you transition when having a girl hit on you?

Anyways, i wasn't in the chasing mood and i don't enjoy chasing girls that approach me so i walked away. I briefly saw her later in the night but didn't follow up. Any tips?

I have a girl coming over in a bit. Will update on that but she's nowhere as hot.
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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learn to dance.
 
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I've had the same trouble all my life... I actually did that to the beautiful blonde coed who was coming on to me at a nude beach.
Idiot.
I'm still retraining myself, because I did it last month at a free concert downtown: THE hottest dame in town needed someone to dance with, and I turned her down. I wasn't feeling "ON", and just wasn't prepared for this to happen to me.
You gotta be ON all the time!
At the Pirate Festival, one of the hot wen-ches came on to me for a dance, and I took her up. She was maybe half my age, but I showed her I have the moves. The guy she was with finally came and got her away from me.
Dude, it's just a dance.
 
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Peaks&Valleys said:
learn to dance.
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Definitely - if you plan on picking up at clubs.

I don't dance. But I also don't go to clubs.
 
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To make it clear, i told her i don't dance but when she slowly made her way to me grinding, i let her grind into me and then she turned around and we danced together. I don't do any of that crazy dancing sh1t flailing arms and legs. Unless i girls ass or body is up on mine, i'm not moving all that much on the dance floor.

Dancing isn't the issue, i just don't to go from being the hard to get guy into im desperate guy once she throws herself at me.

on a side note, I just ****ed the girl that came over. I'll update about it in my journal.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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It might just be me but I find girls approaching me to be a big turnoff, it just seems pathetic... and it means that she's obviously a massive s.l.u.t.

In saying that if she was a total babe like this girl was I'd try and smash.
 
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