how to handle casual hookups?

[PlatoPacks23]

so I met someone who Im pretty sure is super into me, but Im not THAT into them. Like enough to hook up with them, but for sure do not see a long term thing at all... is there a way to make this clear that I'd be fine hooking up but don't see it as a long term thing without like.. hurting their feelings?

 

[BPH]

Just hook up with them until that point comes and then decide how you feel then.

 

[The Duke]

Be honest if asked. Keep it casual. Don't invest too much time in her. Don't create a false premise. Most are ok with hooking up for a while.

 

[CornbreadFed]

"I am open to the possibility of a relationship in the future, but to be honest I am really just focusing on myself right now."

 

[darksprezzatura]

I convey this through actions not words.

When asked directly, I tend to indicate a huge life change in the future that disqualifies me for a relationship.

“I might be moving to X place at the end of the year”

“I don’t think long distance relationships work”

 

[Clockwerk50]

If she were more into you, she’d be at that stage where she wants to see you all the time, asking for your schedule so she can plan things with you, constantly initiating texts, and making an effort to be around you.

Women tend to ask for exclusivity or steer the conversation in that direction after you’ve hooked up a few times and once 3–6 months have passed. Even though you’re not that attracted to her, I suggest you go for it anyway, gain some experience and cleanse yourself of the bad taste from your social circle game. The game is to smash it as soon as you can. Think of it like reserving a table at a busy restaurant, once you’ve put your name down, others are less likely to take your spot.

 

[BackInTheGame78]

You just do it and when they bring up the "what are we" talk just tell them you enjoy spending time with them and seeing them but aren't looking for a relationship right now.

There is no reason to bring this up on your own.