"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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How to handle "bad behavior" and rudeness from women who clearly are into you?

jajaja

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A girl I have a few classes with is pretty annoying and rude. She constantly makes rude comments under her breath and gets butthurt whenever girls in class flirt or guys joke around about my dating life. Other guys have seen it and said she's obviously really jealous. The strategy of just ignoring her isn't making her act nicer, it's making her act even worse and it's been happening awhile. I dunno if she's trying to get attention, or just mad 'cause I'm not giving her attention. I feel like if I ignore her, I might as well be allowing her to treat me like that. How does an alpha handle rudeness, when it's obvious she wants the D and ignoring clearly isn't working?
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Ignoring her IS working. Don't play games. If she's acting like a b1tch, let her be. Let a mutt be with a mutt.
 

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Not feeling this mindset, sir. You're justifying her actions, and thinking about rewarding her *****y behavior by giving her attention. What more, you're blaming yourself for her acting this way. Never tolerate *****iness, or *****es. Don't care about how hot they are, because that's why they do it - they can, and people tolerate it. This is why so many hot girls are *****es.

Have standards, don't think with your ****, and realize that a ***** is going to be a *****. Her attraction towards you isn't going to stop her from being a *****, or throwing a ****fit when she doesn't get her way. Like she is currently doing... Probably because its been tolerated by men for so long. You act only as you are allowed to. If they couldn't get away with it - they wouldn't do it. As well as having issues.

Even if you're just looking for sex, there are girls who don't act like complete ****s, and are respectful. Chances are, you'll have to act like an ******* to attract her, because that's what *****es respond to. Decent guys who give her attention and act nice tend to get trampled all over / manipulated / strung along. Good doesn't mesh with bad, contrary to fairytales.

For a person to be a *****, or miserable, or whatever bad things there are, they have to have issues. Otherwise, they wouldn't be acting this way.
 

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Subtitled: How to deal with women who don't like you when you THINK they like you.
 

incognito42

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floydb25 said:
Not feeling this mindset, sir. You're justifying her actions, and thinking about rewarding her *****y behavior by giving her attention. What more, you're blaming yourself for her acting this way. Never tolerate *****iness, or *****es. Don't care about how hot they are, because that's why they do it - they can, and people tolerate it. This is why so many hot girls are *****es.

Have standards, don't think with your ****, and realize that a ***** is going to be a *****. Her attraction towards you isn't going to stop her from being a *****, or throwing a ****fit when she doesn't get her way. Like she is currently doing... Probably because its been tolerated by men for so long. You act only as you are allowed to. If they couldn't get away with it - they wouldn't do it. As well as having issues.

Even if you're just looking for sex, there are girls who don't act like complete ****s, and are respectful. Chances are, you'll have to act like an ******* to attract her, because that's what *****es respond to. Decent guys who give her attention and act nice tend to get trampled all over / manipulated / strung along. Good doesn't mesh with bad, contrary to fairytales.

For a person to be a *****, or miserable, or whatever bad things there are, they have to have issues. Otherwise, they wouldn't be acting this way.
Great advice, you are so right. I'm working on getting to this mindset myself. I seem to end up feeding into their ego and giving them what they want, a reaction. Even when I think I know better I'll lose my zen attitude and bite the bait because I end up convincing myself they're not the b*tch with issues that they really are, and that I'm doing something wrong
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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bigneil said:
Subtitled: How to deal with women who don't like you when you THINK they like you.
Yep, a chick who truly likes you won't pull this sh!t on you.
 

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Yeah, I'm not trying to figure out how to game her or be an ******* long enough to get in her pants. A couple guys say she wants the D, I kind of resent their comments that I should try to go for her. As far as I'm concerned she's just a spoiled girl who thinks she can act like that. College girl too, emotionally stunted if you ask me. She isn't taking a hint from me not talking to her or responding to her, so maybe I just need to be harsh and then completely ignore her. If I reward that ****ty behavior it would just teach her that having a tantrum in the middle of a store would get her whatever she wants.
 

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Zerro said:
Yep, a chick who truly likes you won't pull this sh!t on you.
Not necessarily. A ***** is going to be a ***** regardless. Doesn't matter if she likes you or not. Someone who's loud, rude, egotistical, stubborn, arrogant, spoiled, childish, etc, is gonna act however they want - without giving a **** about what anyone thinks. This includes those she finds attractive. This is the nature of a jerk - they don't care about, or respect ANYONE. Most of them even flirt via insults. Ex: Calling you a loser or slut. Just straight *****es.

At best, she might only pretend to be decent in the very beginning, but that tends to fail. Can't pretend to be something you're not. The cracks open little by little - until the entire monster is unleashed, and you wonder WTF just happened. Most people are too busy caught up in the infatuation / chase / potential to be paying attention, though, so they get blind-sided once they reveal their true colors.
 

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I sense tons of $hit tests and just plain b!tchiness.

Solution:

Be disinterested in her $hit, be un-reactive and plow through the conversation.

Don't let her games screw up your mindset.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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