A girl I have a few classes with is pretty annoying and rude. She constantly makes rude comments under her breath and gets butthurt whenever girls in class flirt or guys joke around about my dating life. Other guys have seen it and said she's obviously really jealous. The strategy of just ignoring her isn't making her act nicer, it's making her act even worse and it's been happening awhile. I dunno if she's trying to get attention, or just mad 'cause I'm not giving her attention. I feel like if I ignore her, I might as well be allowing her to treat me like that. How does an alpha handle rudeness, when it's obvious she wants the D and ignoring clearly isn't working?
"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
How to handle "bad behavior" and rudeness from women who clearly are into you?
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"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
Not feeling this mindset, sir. You're justifying her actions, and thinking about rewarding her *****y behavior by giving her attention. What more, you're blaming yourself for her acting this way. Never tolerate *****iness, or *****es. Don't care about how hot they are, because that's why they do it - they can, and people tolerate it. This is why so many hot girls are *****es.
Have standards, don't think with your ****, and realize that a ***** is going to be a *****. Her attraction towards you isn't going to stop her from being a *****, or throwing a ****fit when she doesn't get her way. Like she is currently doing... Probably because its been tolerated by men for so long. You act only as you are allowed to. If they couldn't get away with it - they wouldn't do it. As well as having issues.
Even if you're just looking for sex, there are girls who don't act like complete ****s, and are respectful. Chances are, you'll have to act like an ******* to attract her, because that's what *****es respond to. Decent guys who give her attention and act nice tend to get trampled all over / manipulated / strung along. Good doesn't mesh with bad, contrary to fairytales.
For a person to be a *****, or miserable, or whatever bad things there are, they have to have issues. Otherwise, they wouldn't be acting this way.
Have standards, don't think with your ****, and realize that a ***** is going to be a *****. Her attraction towards you isn't going to stop her from being a *****, or throwing a ****fit when she doesn't get her way. Like she is currently doing... Probably because its been tolerated by men for so long. You act only as you are allowed to. If they couldn't get away with it - they wouldn't do it. As well as having issues.
Even if you're just looking for sex, there are girls who don't act like complete ****s, and are respectful. Chances are, you'll have to act like an ******* to attract her, because that's what *****es respond to. Decent guys who give her attention and act nice tend to get trampled all over / manipulated / strung along. Good doesn't mesh with bad, contrary to fairytales.
For a person to be a *****, or miserable, or whatever bad things there are, they have to have issues. Otherwise, they wouldn't be acting this way.
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Great advice, you are so right. I'm working on getting to this mindset myself. I seem to end up feeding into their ego and giving them what they want, a reaction. Even when I think I know better I'll lose my zen attitude and bite the bait because I end up convincing myself they're not the b*tch with issues that they really are, and that I'm doing something wrongfloydb25 said:
"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.
Yeah, I'm not trying to figure out how to game her or be an ******* long enough to get in her pants. A couple guys say she wants the D, I kind of resent their comments that I should try to go for her. As far as I'm concerned she's just a spoiled girl who thinks she can act like that. College girl too, emotionally stunted if you ask me. She isn't taking a hint from me not talking to her or responding to her, so maybe I just need to be harsh and then completely ignore her. If I reward that ****ty behavior it would just teach her that having a tantrum in the middle of a store would get her whatever she wants.
Not necessarily. A ***** is going to be a ***** regardless. Doesn't matter if she likes you or not. Someone who's loud, rude, egotistical, stubborn, arrogant, spoiled, childish, etc, is gonna act however they want - without giving a **** about what anyone thinks. This includes those she finds attractive. This is the nature of a jerk - they don't care about, or respect ANYONE. Most of them even flirt via insults. Ex: Calling you a loser or slut. Just straight *****es.Zerro said:
At best, she might only pretend to be decent in the very beginning, but that tends to fail. Can't pretend to be something you're not. The cracks open little by little - until the entire monster is unleashed, and you wonder WTF just happened. Most people are too busy caught up in the infatuation / chase / potential to be paying attention, though, so they get blind-sided once they reveal their true colors.
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"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.