How to grow b***s?

[Pozitron]

I'm serious.. ok maybe not that serious but..
Looking back... there were like 4 girls that came to me and were interested, but I didn't have the guts to take the next step ( even though at that time I thought I didn't like them).
The 1 or 2 times I initiated or wanted to initiate something I didn;y had the balsl to ask them or make a move.

So yea, really..how did youn got past it the first times?

 

[BPH]

The same way you force yourself to jump into a cold pool or swallow that huge medicine pill...just do it.

I mean christ, there's a ton of these types of questions and they all have the same answer. Do what you would do if you were drunk per say, or what the best version of yourself would do.

Imagine the guy that gets laid like a bandit, do the things he would do, without comprimising your own identity of course.

 

[Sparky]

In a way it's more our failures that teach us than our successes.

Think of it this way - if you fail you learn something (if you're canny), and if you succeed, you get the girl.

It's win-win really isn't it? All you've got to do is actually do it.

 

[Pozitron]

What if it's about a girl in my class.
I would probably act more freely with a stranger, but I'll see that girl 2 more years so..

 

[Melen]

It's quite easy to say 'just do it', I tell myself that all the time! Often to little avail. Personally I believe confidence is a very hard thing to aquire, I recently have started to listen to NLP audio files. Self-hypnosis if you like, Ross Jeffries, and the things he advocates, in how you view yourself have really given me considerably more confidence. Confidence in yourself is the foundation that you should build on, if you don't have that then having outer game and such things is useless.

 

[BPH]

It's quite easy to say 'just do it', I tell myself that all the time! Often to little avail. Personally I believe confidence is a very hard thing to aquire, I recently have started to listen to NLP audio files. Self-hypnosis if you like, Ross Jeffries, and the things he advocates, in how you view yourself have really given me considerably more confidence. Confidence in yourself is the foundation that you should build on, if you don't have that then having outer game and such things is useless.

Strongly disagree. Until you put yourself out of your comfort zone enough to develop an IDGAF outlook on life...you will have to JUST DO IT

 

[Melen]

Yes. But it's advice i've been given time and time again, It's done nothing for me. The thing which has given me confidence is believing in myself, doing things which make me feel awesome and thinking about not giving a ****.

All I want to do is just do it, but first I need to know how to do it. That's the hardest thing to learn. Just do it. Is stating the obvious and I've found that it's done me no favours.

 

[NorwegianDJ]

Constructing and strengthening beliefs can be done in several ways, as stated. However, experience is by far superior. It's like the legs of a table. The more, bigger, and polished; the steadier. I'll make a post on it someday.
I highly recommend you guys to read "Awaken the Giant Within" by Anthony Robbins.

Oh and btw Pozitron, you know what do to. Your time stalling and waiting for the magic pill is over.

 

[giantmecharobotnerd]

those girls came to you? as in made a move on you? well duh that very likely means they will welcome your advances for sure