"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Pozitron

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I'm serious.. ok maybe not that serious but..
Looking back... there were like 4 girls that came to me and were interested, but I didn't have the guts to take the next step ( even though at that time I thought I didn't like them).
The 1 or 2 times I initiated or wanted to initiate something I didn;y had the balsl to ask them or make a move.

So yea, really..how did youn got past it the first times?
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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The same way you force yourself to jump into a cold pool or swallow that huge medicine pill...just do it.

I mean christ, there's a ton of these types of questions and they all have the same answer. Do what you would do if you were drunk per say, or what the best version of yourself would do.

Imagine the guy that gets laid like a bandit, do the things he would do, without comprimising your own identity of course.
 

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In a way it's more our failures that teach us than our successes.

Think of it this way - if you fail you learn something (if you're canny), and if you succeed, you get the girl.

It's win-win really isn't it? All you've got to do is actually do it.
 

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What if it's about a girl in my class.
I would probably act more freely with a stranger, but I'll see that girl 2 more years so..
 

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It's quite easy to say 'just do it', I tell myself that all the time! Often to little avail. Personally I believe confidence is a very hard thing to aquire, I recently have started to listen to NLP audio files. Self-hypnosis if you like, Ross Jeffries, and the things he advocates, in how you view yourself have really given me considerably more confidence. Confidence in yourself is the foundation that you should build on, if you don't have that then having outer game and such things is useless.
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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Melen said:
It's quite easy to say 'just do it', I tell myself that all the time! Often to little avail. Personally I believe confidence is a very hard thing to aquire, I recently have started to listen to NLP audio files. Self-hypnosis if you like, Ross Jeffries, and the things he advocates, in how you view yourself have really given me considerably more confidence. Confidence in yourself is the foundation that you should build on, if you don't have that then having outer game and such things is useless.
Strongly disagree. Until you put yourself out of your comfort zone enough to develop an IDGAF outlook on life...you will have to JUST DO IT
 

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Yes. But it's advice i've been given time and time again, It's done nothing for me. The thing which has given me confidence is believing in myself, doing things which make me feel awesome and thinking about not giving a ****.

All I want to do is just do it, but first I need to know how to do it. That's the hardest thing to learn. Just do it. Is stating the obvious and I've found that it's done me no favours.
 

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Constructing and strengthening beliefs can be done in several ways, as stated. However, experience is by far superior. It's like the legs of a table. The more, bigger, and polished; the steadier. I'll make a post on it someday.
I highly recommend you guys to read "Awaken the Giant Within" by Anthony Robbins.

Oh and btw Pozitron, you know what do to. Your time stalling and waiting for the magic pill is over.
 
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those girls came to you? as in made a move on you? well duh that very likely means they will welcome your advances for sure
 
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