I was here back in the heyday then left at some point. Been with my wife since 2006. Ran into a ton of difficulty with her in 2020 that i'm still sorting out. I'd like to say i give back here, but i also learn. Honestly sometimes i think i knew what i was doing back in 2002 better than now.
Why "Whatever You Want" Keeps You Single
She says the movie looks dumb; you suddenly agree. She tests you with a little attitude; you apologize for nothing.
You think you're being easy to get along with. She reads something else entirely: a man with no edges. Nothing to hold on to. No friction, no tension, no reason to wonder what he really thinks.
The "22 Rules" taught me to push back — playfully, calmly, without needing her approval. Strange things happened after that.
How to graduate from SoSuave with honors
- Thread starter Atom Smasher
- Start date
"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
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I shall miss you greatly Atom. Wish you Godspeed and prosperity in all your endeavors.
Cheers and Farewell
Cheers and Farewell
The Duke
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You are one of the greatest posters to reside here. Thank you for all your thoughts and input over the years.
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Thanks for sharing your experiences with the younger generation. We’ll keep it going for you.
Appreciate the formal farewell
Appreciate the formal farewell
Atom, it’s been good knowing and interacting with you. You are the embodiment of all men that have made the time and effort to improve their lives here, and you will always have the wind at your back now for clear sailing …
Congratulations and have a Great life sir
Congratulations and have a Great life sir
"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
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Of course he will be back !
We all come back once in a while to see whats happening or just a quick refresher on the "State of things".
Everyone goes through the phases - New Shy guy lurking - Active poster learning - Ingrossed member trying everything and reporting everything - Learning and mastering Inner Game - Leaving the forum for the occasional visit because you've got the skills to improve everything in your life - Coming back to post nuggets of gold and disappearing again.
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A very Pook-ish post, nonetheless relevant. He said something along the same lines, like there comes/should come a point in time when a man doesn't need game/seduction (strategy) anymore. Insomuch as it is coming naturally at that point.
I notice the same cognitive dissonance here today as has almost always been: men searching for black and white answers where there are only fifty shades of grey. Good to see people still trying to sort these things out though in their own way. It must be said that there are different lessons to be learned as life progresses.
I notice the same cognitive dissonance here today as has almost always been: men searching for black and white answers where there are only fifty shades of grey. Good to see people still trying to sort these things out though in their own way. It must be said that there are different lessons to be learned as life progresses.