I was here back in the heyday then left at some point. Been with my wife since 2006. Ran into a ton of difficulty with her in 2020 that i'm still sorting out. I'd like to say i give back here, but i also learn. Honestly sometimes i think i knew what i was doing back in 2002 better than now.
"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
How to graduate from SoSuave with honors
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"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
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I shall miss you greatly Atom. Wish you Godspeed and prosperity in all your endeavors.
Cheers and Farewell
Cheers and Farewell
The Duke
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You are one of the greatest posters to reside here. Thank you for all your thoughts and input over the years.
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Thanks for sharing your experiences with the younger generation. We’ll keep it going for you.
Appreciate the formal farewell
Appreciate the formal farewell
Atom, it’s been good knowing and interacting with you. You are the embodiment of all men that have made the time and effort to improve their lives here, and you will always have the wind at your back now for clear sailing …
Congratulations and have a Great life sir
Congratulations and have a Great life sir
"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
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Of course he will be back !
We all come back once in a while to see whats happening or just a quick refresher on the "State of things".
Everyone goes through the phases - New Shy guy lurking - Active poster learning - Ingrossed member trying everything and reporting everything - Learning and mastering Inner Game - Leaving the forum for the occasional visit because you've got the skills to improve everything in your life - Coming back to post nuggets of gold and disappearing again.
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A very Pook-ish post, nonetheless relevant. He said something along the same lines, like there comes/should come a point in time when a man doesn't need game/seduction (strategy) anymore. Insomuch as it is coming naturally at that point.
I notice the same cognitive dissonance here today as has almost always been: men searching for black and white answers where there are only fifty shades of grey. Good to see people still trying to sort these things out though in their own way. It must be said that there are different lessons to be learned as life progresses.
I notice the same cognitive dissonance here today as has almost always been: men searching for black and white answers where there are only fifty shades of grey. Good to see people still trying to sort these things out though in their own way. It must be said that there are different lessons to be learned as life progresses.