"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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How to go about this?

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So there was this underclassmen that was making looks at me. So I smiled but had to continue on to class (lol weak). So I see her walking down the hall with her friends later. I employed the line "Can I steal ur friend from u guys?"

So she stopped and her friends kept going. And I tried talking to her, but her friends kept pressuring her to coem with them. So I was like, screw this stupid immature b!tch.

My friend tells me later, that she was looking for me later during the day.

Now, how should I go about this?
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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That was a good opportunity for you. What you should have said was,

"Looks like you're busy, write down your number, I'll call you."

Your next step should be to get the number, then ask her on a date, find out about her on that date, if things go well, kiss her on that date. You don't need to get to know a person before you go on a date with them. Make it your personaly interview. If it doesn't work out, drop her off at home and let that be the end of it.
 

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Great job so far! Pulling her away from her friends shows confidence and that you're not afraid to pursue what you want.

She seems pretty interested. Next time you see her, request her phone number and arrange a date between the two of you.
 

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you're doing good man!1

Yeah a lot of the underclassmen are giving me looks..I'm slowly getting to know some of them, its nice to have fans.
 

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Thanks for the props guys

Some of my friends suggested ignoring her for a bit.
While others said to just find her alone, and redo the whole introduction.

Well, wats the word?
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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I'd go in for the kill (or at least setting up a date now). Ignoring her or playing hard to get is something you do to raise a girl's interest level in you. If she was looking for you after you introduced yourself to her you've already done that. Just start a conversation with her again the next time you see her and either get her number or set something up right there, do whichever one you'd feel more comfortable doing, and then go have some fun.
 

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Originally posted by JMBM53
I'd go in for the kill (or at least setting up a date now). Ignoring her or playing hard to get is something you do to raise a girl's interest level in you. If she was looking for you after you introduced yourself to her you've already done that. Just start a conversation with her again the next time you see her and either get her number or set something up right there, do whichever one you'd feel more comfortable doing, and then go have some fun.
Mos def.

You've got her on your fingertips. Now you've got to pursue.
 

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Your goal should be to find out if this girl is interested as soon as possible and not waste time. You'll be hurt in the long run if you waste too much time on a girl you don't even know has any interest in you. Forget the ignoring crap, save it for later when you're pulling your confident, challenging, mysterious stuff. For now, you get the number, get the date, get the kiss. If she rejects any of those, less time wasted, time to move on.
 

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Dammit man, no idea wats goin on


I found her alone, so it was golden oppurtunity. Here's how it went:

Me:Yo, watsup?
Her:Umm, hi
Me:So wats ur name?
Her:Why do u want to know my name?
Me (Thinking wtf, y wud she ask sumthign like that):Umm, cuz I met you once, and still don't know it.

By then she was like pulling away, and I was like f*ck this stupid bich.

I have no idea wats going on. Cuz whenever I see her shes lookign my way, rite in my eyes, smiling. But when I go to talk to her she completely blows me off.

My best guess is that she's scared, I hope.

Basically this girl is turnign into a challange, and I really want to get her for that reason. So, wat shud I do instead of NEXTing her?
 

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Originally posted by werdmaster
Dammit man, no idea wats goin on


I found her alone, so it was golden oppurtunity. Here's how it went:

Me:Yo, watsup?
Her:Umm, hi
Me:So wats ur name?
Her:Why do u want to know my name?
Me (Thinking wtf, y wud she ask sumthign like that):Umm, cuz I met you once, and still don't know it.

By then she was like pulling away, and I was like f*ck this stupid bich.

I have no idea wats going on. Cuz whenever I see her shes lookign my way, rite in my eyes, smiling. But when I go to talk to her she completely blows me off.

My best guess is that she's scared, I hope.

Basically this girl is turnign into a challange, and I really want to get her for that reason. So, wat shud I do instead of NEXTing her?
Go for the ignore.

Still say "hello" and stuff, but nothing more. Don't go out of your way to see her in the hall or talk to her.

Hang out with other girls, don't let one girl hang you up.
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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you saw her look at you so you pulled her away from her friends next time you saw her? Damn that sure seems like going out on a limb. I'm guessing that your not telling us everything and there was more to it then "one look" though.

But either way, good job. The other guys told you what to do next, i don't need to repeat it.
 

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My question is: Can I just confront her?

Just be like, what is ur deal?
Y r u leading me on?

Will sumthign like that work?
 

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Ignoring her isn't going to work because you haven't established routine conversation yet.

Asking her why she's "leading you on" wouldn't work because eye contact and a smile doesn't really mean anything.

Next time you see her, ask explicitly to hang out with sometime. Invite her to have lunch with you, or hang out after school. If she is still hesitant or says no, then she's either not interested or socially incompetent.
 

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Originally posted by Interpol
Ignoring her isn't going to work because you haven't established routine conversation yet.

Asking her why she's "leading you on" wouldn't work because eye contact and a smile doesn't really mean anything.

Next time you see her, ask explicitly to hang out with sometime. Invite her to have lunch with you, or hang out after school. If she is still hesitant or says no, then she's either not interested or socially incompetent.
Good advice.
 
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