GameOfNoGame
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If someone's made all the mistakes with a girl who's playing games, how do you judo your way back on top?
"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
How to get your power back
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"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.
Nexus Polaris
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Do you mean with that particular girl or in general?
With that specific girl, I would say just move on and let it go. Why would you waste your time with a girl who is playing games anyway? Abundance mentality, man. Women are everywhere. If she's d1cking you around, just go find a better one. Or five.
In general, just learn to stop giving a fück. You'd be amazed at how many of your DJ problems completely go away when you get to a point where you can just relax and stop caring.
With that specific girl, I would say just move on and let it go. Why would you waste your time with a girl who is playing games anyway? Abundance mentality, man. Women are everywhere. If she's d1cking you around, just go find a better one. Or five.
In general, just learn to stop giving a fück. You'd be amazed at how many of your DJ problems completely go away when you get to a point where you can just relax and stop caring.
GameOfNoGame
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Both whatever, that one aside I have two others on the go. Obviously you'll get laid if you just talk enough women but where's the satisfaction in that? I just want to know what to do when I **** up on the rules. lol come on guys you must have more to say then move on. Why would a girl waste her time on us when we're playing games? Sometimes it just happens so you mght as well play to win.
PapiChulo
Master Don Juan
I am doing the exact same thing. It's an extremely good topic to discuss because it's more common now that we would like to admit. Women are behaving like men and catching up in the game.
Not giving a f*ck is just keeping you safe from being hurt or emotionally invested, but the real satisfaction is when you do get that b*tch purely out of sportsmanship. It's a game after all. She is playing games in which sense - attention whoring?
Freez outs , no contact are the usual stuff to do here, but they are all passive and dont really work on attention wh*re if she is getting the attention somewhere else.
One thing I ve found is that if you give your attention to somebody else and she witnesses it- she will get jealous instantly and come to get you.
It's time to ask this question: Does she have any good-looking girlfriends or relatives? If you are in a social situation you might as well find a chick who will flirt and get it on with her.
Attention wh*ore does not share the spotlight-it's her weakness.
Nexting is good too, but the chances are that you will run into another "cutie"-"nice girl" -"sexy kitten" who will also turn into an attention wh*ore.
They all just want to be bent over.
P.S. you are mentioning mistakes. Which kind? It might be too far gone to salvage.
Not giving a f*ck is just keeping you safe from being hurt or emotionally invested, but the real satisfaction is when you do get that b*tch purely out of sportsmanship. It's a game after all. She is playing games in which sense - attention whoring?
Freez outs , no contact are the usual stuff to do here, but they are all passive and dont really work on attention wh*re if she is getting the attention somewhere else.
One thing I ve found is that if you give your attention to somebody else and she witnesses it- she will get jealous instantly and come to get you.
It's time to ask this question: Does she have any good-looking girlfriends or relatives? If you are in a social situation you might as well find a chick who will flirt and get it on with her.
Attention wh*ore does not share the spotlight-it's her weakness.
Nexting is good too, but the chances are that you will run into another "cutie"-"nice girl" -"sexy kitten" who will also turn into an attention wh*ore.
They all just want to be bent over.
P.S. you are mentioning mistakes. Which kind? It might be too far gone to salvage.
GameOfNoGame
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But isn't the rule, too much attention is bad & no attention is also bad? It's a little attention that's key. So I think no contact can work but only after you've given them a little attention. Or hell, having a ****ing tantrum at her now & then seemed to work just as well.
Maybe it's better to be hated for a bit then let her get indifferent? I don't know. Or maybe these mind ****ers know they deserve a good screaming at from time to time or even like that sort of thing so long as you're not abusing them like lesser men would.
Because if it's about attention, they can find it somewhere else. But what kinds and how much attention is most effective? I never discussed other women around girls I'm working on. It seemed too obvious but when I tried it, it was like I was taking their crack away.
Maybe it's better to be hated for a bit then let her get indifferent? I don't know. Or maybe these mind ****ers know they deserve a good screaming at from time to time or even like that sort of thing so long as you're not abusing them like lesser men would.
Because if it's about attention, they can find it somewhere else. But what kinds and how much attention is most effective? I never discussed other women around girls I'm working on. It seemed too obvious but when I tried it, it was like I was taking their crack away.
"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
Diaforetikos
Senior Don Juan
Dood, just take a chance with what YOU think you should do.
Your not marrying her right? That's what I thought. Learning from experimenting outweighs a potential plate. Take a chance and see what happens. If it doesn't work, you know what to do next time.
Your not marrying her right? That's what I thought. Learning from experimenting outweighs a potential plate. Take a chance and see what happens. If it doesn't work, you know what to do next time.
GameOfNoGame
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Respect Man. I like that response. There's no universal answer. I've alwas gone with my gut & it's gotten me places people spend hours calculating. I just want to know how to exude that my attitude isn't weakness, it's strength to adversity.
PapiChulo
Master Don Juan
The gut feeling is 99% right - I always go with that too, yet sometimes you just dont see it coming with the attention wh*res.
Honestly, I dont see getting it on with someone to make her jealous as miserable at all. Its the womans weapon and tactics used on her. Its evil, low and cruel - yes, but at some point you just have to fuk with her and beat the b!tch at her own game. She wants to play - she has it coming. I assume that one should use discretion when resorting to such severe means.
Honestly, I dont see getting it on with someone to make her jealous as miserable at all. Its the womans weapon and tactics used on her. Its evil, low and cruel - yes, but at some point you just have to fuk with her and beat the b!tch at her own game. She wants to play - she has it coming. I assume that one should use discretion when resorting to such severe means.