"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
how to get your gf to move out w/o breaking up?
- Thread starter strey
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"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
jophil28
Master Don Juan
However, she will see through those weasel statements like " I need some physical space" or some such whiney crap.Why won't she go for it ? Because woman are masters of disguising their intentions with slippery words, and she sure isn't gonna fall for yours. Asking her to live somewheres else and sleep in another bed will be understandably felt as a rejection. She will think that you want to end the relationship but don't have the nuts to say so.
Perhaps if you post some more revelant details I may be able to offer a tip or two.
"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.
jophil28 said:you want to end the relationship but don't have the nuts to say so.QUOTE]
jackpot, larry, tell him what he has won!!!!!
so i figure our relationship might actually work for the better if she moves out. i still like her, but she isnt going for it. why do we have to continue the same path we have been doing or dismiss the thing entirely? we were stupid and moved in way too early in the relationship. now she wont let go. im just sick of her **** and just need a little space.
jophil28
Master Don Juan
strey said:What she wants is to stay "nested" with you. If she moves out she will see it as the end of her 'dream'.jophil28 said:you want to end the relationship but don't have the nuts to say so.QUOTE]
jackpot, larry, tell him what he has won!!!!!
so i figure our relationship might actually work for the better if she moves out. i still like her, but she isnt going for it. why do we have to continue the same path we have been doing or dismiss the thing entirely? we were stupid and moved in way too early in the relationship. now she wont let go. im just sick of her **** and just need a little space.
What you really want is for her to take her whiny girly shyte elsewhere and give you some air to breathe .
What you also really want is to visit her when you feel the urge for a fuk and have her accomodate you. Not gonna work for long because she knows that her pvssy is her only bargaining chip.
Unfortunately you and she want vastly different things, so do not expect the separation to "work better..." . You will be getting what you want,but she is not getting her what she wants.
MY suggestion is to just breakup, start over and do not move in with another woman UNLESS she has absolutely proved her worth as a future wife and you are ready to sign up with her...
If its your place, your lease, then just kick her ass to the curb. Be like "babe, I got love for ya, but I cant live with ya. You got to go." call the cops first and have them on standby that way if she starts acting nuts they will remove her immedietely.
now if she is on the lease agreement, well son your gona have to stick it out I suppose or pay up to get out.
jophil28 said:i think you are right, thank youstrey said:What she wants is to stay "nested" with you. If she moves out she will see it as the end of her 'dream'.
What you really want is for her to take her whiny girly shyte elsewhere and give you some air to breathe .
What you also really want is to visit her when you feel the urge for a fuk and have her accomodate you. Not gonna work for long because she knows that her pvssy is her only bargaining chip.
Unfortunately you and she want vastly different things, so do not expect the separation to "work better..." . You will be getting what you want,but she is not getting her what she wants.
MY suggestion is to just breakup, start over and do not move in with another woman UNLESS she has absolutely proved her worth as a future wife and you are ready to sign up with her...
"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
Da Realist
Master Don Juan
But the really, let's cut out the doomsday scenerio and get to what's really happening. She's constantly in your face, you can't get any alone time at your own place, and sex has probably went down. Instead of looking at moving her out, you need to look at yourself. I mean, women do a lot of crazy stuff and can be to blame for a lot of things, but guys mess up too and you think it's all her fault. What do you do to blow off steam? Do you just come home, eat, and watch tv all night, or do you actually go out and do stuff that interest you? Do you think just because she moved in you have to stop working as hard to get here in the bed or do you still try to be romantic? Do you take her with you when you go out or at least offer to do so?
See when you move in with someone, the relationship changes. You can't be the same knucklehead chasing every vag that moves so you can dump your load in it. You got somebody who still wants that exciting life you promised her whether you know it or not, and she's expecting you to pay up. When you get ask her to leave, she will feel cheated and she will leave unless she's just the type to let a guy walk all over her. The thing is either you make a commitment to grow up or you go on an let her go because you are not going to get the best of both worlds like you're hoping. Believe it or not, she made an investment in you and kicking her out is pretty much saying you could care less about it. So with that, it's time to man up to either accept her being out of your life or to make things better on your own end. With the latter, you need to stop blaming her for your lack of space and create some for yourself without alienating her.
scrouds
Master Don Juan
Break up with her. (Reason for breakup: You aren't happy anymore). Watch her move out. Wait for her to sign a lease or otherwise get locked into a place. Then tell her you miss her and want to date her again.
If you give it to her as a loss for her she will fight against it. But if you dump out everything then offer her something back, you might come out ahead.
No guarantees!
good thinking man, i say try this one!scrouds said:If you give it to her as a loss for her she will fight against it. But if you dump out everything then offer her something back, you might come out ahead.