"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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How to Get to Her

Oni

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So there's this girl that I have known from middle school. Somehow lately I've been thinking about her and I might want to start something up with her...if she's still single. The problem is...

I haven't seen her in 4 years
No phone number
No SN
She goes to another school
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nothing to start with at all!

The only connection i got with her is through a friend who knows her, but this dude got a crush on her.

so...what do i do?
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Muphaser

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set someting up where you out with dude and you "accidently" see her... sparks fly, etc

Its a fresh start so you can show her the new you
 

killbill

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I know

What you guys should do is invite her to your house or your buddies and hangout with her. Then at the end if she is still cool ask for a phone number.

Also man remember this people do not stay the same. I actually had a situaition just like you. I knew the chick like 5 years ago and then recently I just talked with her and she was just not the same. she wasnt cool anymore.
so good luck man.:)
 

dannowillbookem

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if you drive, pick ur buddy up and hangout, ask for her number so you can call her. OR follow the suggestion of setting something up and make it seem like a coincidence u guys got together OR...look around for her myspace and get a start from there (if thats ALL you can do) but dont use that til the other choices are impossible
 

Oni

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thats what i had in mind too. I wanted to set something up for us to meet by "coincidence." but i havent come up with anything yet.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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shydude

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Dont loose her. Act fast. And do something like meet her, invite her, or even tell ur friend so he can tell her that u wanna see her. Just do it!! DO something.. She might reject u, but rejection is always better than not doing it at all.. Trust me, i learned it really the hard way. KNow i just do everything like there is no tomorow! And u know what? It works. JUst Do IT!
 

Oni

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easier said than done. i found out my friend and some of her friends are planning a trip and they needed some more ppl. im going to use this to get to her...somehow.
 

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how about this... your friend has a crush on her... use him to get here... give him some tips you read on the website... tell him how to act and tell him you can help get her number msn what ever and than try and get a date...
 

Oni

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haha bu that will make me look like such a bad person... taking advantage of my friend to gain personal benefit. doesnt sond like somehting a DJ will do.
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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Microphone Fiend

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a year and a half and still one-itis posts? lol, seriosuly tho. Are there no girls around you so you have to chase a girl you havent seen in 4 yrs?????I know you will disregard this post but I thought I just point it out because you are skipping the fact.
 

Oni

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no, shes not a oneitis, just a potential. know what i mean?
 

Oni

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oh, i thought oneitis is just that one girl that you just have to have and she is "the one." i never had any crush on her or nothing hen we were at middle school either. it's just i was browsing myspace the other day and i came across a picture of her and man my eyes were glued to the screen. i thought maybe i can start something with her.
 

Oni

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well this is harder than i thought. my friend just refuses to cooperate with me. i give up
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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