"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
How to get the guy to call instead of email
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"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.
flyinshark
Senior Don Juan
I always wanted to know this thing about girls. So why won't you ask a guy out, but wait for him to ask u out first?My rule is I don't ask the guy out
Is it that society has always encouraged this, through movies and what not, that it's the guy's job to do that? Is it that u're playing hard to get? Or maybe it's a test, to see if he really likes u..
I wanna know!
It is the fact that the girl wants the guy to take control of the situation.Originally posted by flyinshark
I always wanted to know this thing about girls. So why won't you ask a guy out, but wait for him to ask u out first?
Is it that society has always encouraged this, through movies and what not, that it's the guy's job to do that? Is it that u're playing hard to get? Or maybe it's a test, to see if he really likes u..
I wanna know!
You can show interest that you are interested in him. But don't go beyond that. If he really likes you and have the balls then he will ask you out. If he doesn't, then maybe he doesn't like you or lacks the balls. In either case, he is not worthy of your time.Originally posted by NJGirl
Ok, so I contacted someone I had a short romance with. There info was on Classmates. We have been emailing and IMing for over a week. My rule is I don't ask the guy out.......anything I can say or do to get him to ask me out?
"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
skinnydart
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earthshyne
Senior Don Juan
Obviously your rule isn't working, so if it's not working then there's not much point in carrying on with it, is there?Originally posted by NJGirl
My rule is I don't ask the guy out.......anything I can say or do to get him to ask me out?
If you're interested, quit playing games. Ask him out.
If you're interested, quit playing games. Ask him out]
Sorry- my rule has worked with most men, so I won't change it for this one.
earthshyne
Senior Don Juan
Obviously, this fellow is not like all the others that you've played games with, which is possibly why they're no longer with you.
But, if you insist on these little mind games, then you're destined to be stuck with a man who falls for them. And what kind of fellow is that?
So, you've dug yourself a hole: If you keep to your own rule out of pride, you'll be missing on all the men of quality who have no time for wimmen who play games.
Hey, it's your choice, obviously. Which is more important to you? Your prideful rule, or the potential for a true soulmate?
"She's Out of Your League"
You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.
or just ...hey(name), we should go (insert activity here) sometime.
i've had girls do this to me all the time. well did it work in my case? no. I've already lost interest in them.
NewMan
Master Don Juan
I'm assuming you've dropped all the hint's that your are interested.
If that is the case, there is nothing more you can do - since you will not get off your high horse and put yourself at risk.
It is the same reason a guy wont ask out a girl that he likes.
Sounds to me NJgirl is afraid of getting rejected, so she plays off this fear as a rule, and puts the ball in his court.
My advice to you NJgirl, is this: You started the ball rolling, you finish it.
Let me give you a hypothetical situation. Say some guy initiated contact with you, Is it now your responsibility to ask him out? Because by your logic, he put the ball in your court.
Women want their equal rights, give them their equal lefts too.
flyinshark
Senior Don Juan
Originally posted by zolo
Let me give you a hypothetical situation. Say some guy initiated contact with you, Is it now your responsibility to ask him out? Because by your logic, he put the ball in your court.
Women want their equal rights, give them their equal lefts too.
Amazing! So, NJGirl, would u ask that hypothetical guy out?
“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”
Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.
Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers. Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.
I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.
Golden Arms
Master Don Juan
let it go
Dezperado
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"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
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