"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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How to get the girl to ask you out?

Ringleader41

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So I'm in a fraternity and the sororities have formals which are pretty much dressed up dances with alcohol. Obviously the girl has to ask you to these and I didn't get invited to any last semester while a lot of my brothers did. I don't know that many girls though.
 

"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"

You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.

She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.

Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.

Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.

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Socialize with them, have a positive attitude, be an interesting character and they will bound to ask you out.
 

Ringleader41

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SeymourCake said:
Socialize with them, have a positive attitude, be an interesting character and they will bound to ask you out.

How do I compete against guys better looking than me
 

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Ringleader41 said:
How do I compete against guys better looking than me
First get rid of that woman mentality that you have where you feel like it's only looks that matters and is a factor when it comes to being successful in the dating world.

Get a stable job that can financially support multiple people at once, buy new fashionable clothes, drive a nice car, find a hobby and be passionate about it, workout in the gym, etc .

I can go on and on, and guess what? Women should be on the bottom of the list when it comes to your priority. Why? Because women will sense your priorities and will do anything to make them number one on that list.
 

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Ringleader41 said:
How do I compete against guys better looking than me

You already asked that question a week ago? Remember?

http://www.sosuave.net/forum/showthread.php?t=194098

And if it the question was dumb enough to get shut down then, it's even dumber now.

The world is full of people better looking than you. Apparently it's even more full of people smarter than you. All you can be is the best version of yourself. Stop worrying about outside factors. The only thing you can control is your own self improvement.
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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SeymourCake said:
Get a stable job that can financially support multiple people at once, buy new fashionable clothes, drive a nice car, find a hobby and be passionate about it, workout in the gym, etc
He's a college kid. The rules aren't the same as in the real world. That's why "frat boy" types tend to suck in bars/clubs: the Game they learned worked in college, but doesn't work outside it.

In college, girls are much more interested in status and having "exciting" experiences. Have a plan for each.

Status: get to a gym. Be in the cool frat. Be a leader (read: main party planner) in your frat.

Exciting experiences: throw crazy parties. Do crazy things at parties, so that you get a reputation as an "exciting" guy. And ESCALATE. QUICKLY.

Hobbies/travel/interesting thoughts are great when you want to date a chick. Most college chicks don't want to date. Ergo, they're good for you long term, but they aren't likely to help you much short-term.
 

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Ringleader41 said:
So I'm in a fraternity and the sororities have formals which are pretty much dressed up dances with alcohol. Obviously the girl has to ask you to these and I didn't get invited to any last semester while a lot of my brothers did. I don't know that many girls though.
Unfortuneately you can't, because the overwhelming vast majority of girls, women, are old-fashioned and feel it is the guy's job to make the first move, approach and do the asking out, initiating.
 

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women dont ask out, they drop pretty strong hints and by then it is pretty obvious that they wanna be around you. Sometimes they jump on opportunity to come meet you somewhere, say, you mention you always wanted to go rock climbing and she suddenly decides to join you.
 

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PapiChulo said:
women dont ask out, they drop pretty strong hints and by then it is pretty obvious that they wanna be around you. Sometimes they jump on opportunity to come meet you somewhere, say, you mention you always wanted to go rock climbing and she suddenly decides to join you.
Most of the time they won't ask but sometimes they will if the interest is high enough, however them asking you for the first date is extremely unlikely. Them setting up the second date (like my new girl did) is much more likely if the first one went really well.
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Steps to get hot women asking you out:

1) Have strong attraction
2) Have sex
3) Have game
4) Have them fall for you secretly
5) Have them confess their feelings eventually
6) Have them telling their friends about you
7) Have them asking you out

It's that easy.
 

“The 22 Rules That Turned Me From Invisible to Irresistible With Women… Starting Tonight”

You can skip the expensive cars, the fancy clothes, and the endless gym selfies. Completely unnecessary.

I used to freeze the second a beautiful woman looked my way. Frustrated. Awkward. Watching other guys walk away with the girl while I stood there tongue-tied.

Then I discovered 22 simple rules that rewired my entire dating life. The anxiety vanished. Conversations flowed effortlessly. Women started chasing me for a change.

These rules trigger a woman's subconscious attraction switches. And you can start using them tonight.

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