"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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How to get the girl to ask you out?

Ringleader41

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So I'm in a fraternity and the sororities have formals which are pretty much dressed up dances with alcohol. Obviously the girl has to ask you to these and I didn't get invited to any last semester while a lot of my brothers did. I don't know that many girls though.
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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Socialize with them, have a positive attitude, be an interesting character and they will bound to ask you out.
 

Ringleader41

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SeymourCake said:
Socialize with them, have a positive attitude, be an interesting character and they will bound to ask you out.

How do I compete against guys better looking than me
 

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Ringleader41 said:
How do I compete against guys better looking than me
First get rid of that woman mentality that you have where you feel like it's only looks that matters and is a factor when it comes to being successful in the dating world.

Get a stable job that can financially support multiple people at once, buy new fashionable clothes, drive a nice car, find a hobby and be passionate about it, workout in the gym, etc .

I can go on and on, and guess what? Women should be on the bottom of the list when it comes to your priority. Why? Because women will sense your priorities and will do anything to make them number one on that list.
 

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Ringleader41 said:
How do I compete against guys better looking than me

You already asked that question a week ago? Remember?

http://www.sosuave.net/forum/showthread.php?t=194098

And if it the question was dumb enough to get shut down then, it's even dumber now.

The world is full of people better looking than you. Apparently it's even more full of people smarter than you. All you can be is the best version of yourself. Stop worrying about outside factors. The only thing you can control is your own self improvement.
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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SeymourCake said:
Get a stable job that can financially support multiple people at once, buy new fashionable clothes, drive a nice car, find a hobby and be passionate about it, workout in the gym, etc
He's a college kid. The rules aren't the same as in the real world. That's why "frat boy" types tend to suck in bars/clubs: the Game they learned worked in college, but doesn't work outside it.

In college, girls are much more interested in status and having "exciting" experiences. Have a plan for each.

Status: get to a gym. Be in the cool frat. Be a leader (read: main party planner) in your frat.

Exciting experiences: throw crazy parties. Do crazy things at parties, so that you get a reputation as an "exciting" guy. And ESCALATE. QUICKLY.

Hobbies/travel/interesting thoughts are great when you want to date a chick. Most college chicks don't want to date. Ergo, they're good for you long term, but they aren't likely to help you much short-term.
 

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Ringleader41 said:
So I'm in a fraternity and the sororities have formals which are pretty much dressed up dances with alcohol. Obviously the girl has to ask you to these and I didn't get invited to any last semester while a lot of my brothers did. I don't know that many girls though.
Unfortuneately you can't, because the overwhelming vast majority of girls, women, are old-fashioned and feel it is the guy's job to make the first move, approach and do the asking out, initiating.
 

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women dont ask out, they drop pretty strong hints and by then it is pretty obvious that they wanna be around you. Sometimes they jump on opportunity to come meet you somewhere, say, you mention you always wanted to go rock climbing and she suddenly decides to join you.
 

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PapiChulo said:
women dont ask out, they drop pretty strong hints and by then it is pretty obvious that they wanna be around you. Sometimes they jump on opportunity to come meet you somewhere, say, you mention you always wanted to go rock climbing and she suddenly decides to join you.
Most of the time they won't ask but sometimes they will if the interest is high enough, however them asking you for the first date is extremely unlikely. Them setting up the second date (like my new girl did) is much more likely if the first one went really well.
 

“The 22 Psychological Triggers That Make Women Chase You… Starting Tonight”

Forget the cash, the cars, and the chiseled jawlines. Female desire operates on a completely different frequency. Primal. Subconscious. Triggers that bypass her logic and hit her on a gut level. Most guys are totally blind to them.

I know because I was one of them. The overthinking. The paralysis. The silent drive home kicking yourself for freezing up. Watching average guys walk away with the girl while you stood there stuck in your own head.

Then I decoded the psychology behind what actually makes women tick. 22 hard rules.  Subtle behavioral shifts that rewired my entire reality. The anxiety evaporated. Women started leaning in. Investing. Chasing.

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Steps to get hot women asking you out:

1) Have strong attraction
2) Have sex
3) Have game
4) Have them fall for you secretly
5) Have them confess their feelings eventually
6) Have them telling their friends about you
7) Have them asking you out

It's that easy.
 

“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”

Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.

Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers.  Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.

I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.

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